09.25.07 Personal

J* Version of Romance

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couple nights ago, JD walked in from the grocery store and placed the bags on the kitchen counter. As he peeled away the plastic bags, he lifted something small from the furthest bag from me. Oh, look what I found for you… He proceeded to pass me a brightly-colored toothbrush. And not just any toothbrush. It was the extra soft, pimped-out toothbrush I had been in search of for the past couple weeks. I love flossing and brushing my teeth, so I thought it was an extraordinarily nice gesture. I flung my arms around his neck and sighed. That’s so romantic!

JD blinked a few times in confusion, but let the moment pass unadulterated by questions.

Later that evening, as we walked Polo along a darkened path, JD resurrected the issue. Jaz, being romantic is sometimes hard with you…I mean, your kind of romanticism. I walked in silence because he was right. Earlier that day we brunched with my best friends in Los Angeles, so as we walked, he continued that my friends were a little less complicated. Romantically speaking, that is. A dozen roses, a nice steak dinner, a glass of champagne, a good concert…that’s where he’d take any of them if it was their wedding anniversary.

Ooooooh, I got it. He’s stressin’ because he still hasn’t figured out what we’re doing for our wedding anniversary this Friday.

I tried explaining that flowers given on a day when a girl is supposed to get flowers is nice, but not romantic. Flowers given on a random Thursday just because? Well, that’s romantic. A nice steak dinner (or in my case, tofu steak!) just to celebrate being alive is romantic. A toothbrush bought late one evening because you thought of your wife’s love affair with dental hygiene…that’s romantic.

Or at least that’s my kind of romanticism. And that’s everything JD naturally does. Random tuberose bouquets sprinkled around the living room, toasts celebrating random Monday nights, toothbrushes. I love it.

So, the only thing I want this Friday, I continued on my quasi-philosophical diatribe, is for us to be together…doing everything and nothing at once. Loving and laughing like it was our last day on Earth…that’s all I want, nothing more.



This is a picture my best friend, Bri, snapped of us at brunch last Sunday at TART. It was such a lovely afternoon and when I left I realized how blessed I am to have so many fabulous people in my life.
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Kay English - Aww how romantic! Happy Anniversary! Mine is coming up on Aug 8th and I'm so excited (even though I'm shooting a wedding that day :(  07.29.09 - 8:15am
davina - Jasmine, I'm so with you on the whole romanticism idea. I don't want flowers on Valentine's Daywhen they cost a handsome fortune and everyone is 'supposed to get them. It's just not that romantic. But on a day when I'm having a difficult day or my husband walks by them and just gets them just because...now THAT'S romantic. And that's the kind of husband I have. I'm super blessed. And thanks for putting into words so perfectly what I believe. Love it!  10.10.07 - 10:51am
craig d - Happy Anniversary! I enjoyed hanging with you guys breifly in February at Mike's workshop. You guys are great.  09.28.07 - 8:46am
craig d - Happy Anniversary! I enjoyed hanging with you guys breifly in February at Mike's workshop. You guys are great.  09.28.07 - 8:46am
Ana Gabriela - I HEAR YOUUUU!!! definately ROMANTIC!!! hahaha  09.28.07 - 8:06am
Sarah Barlow - Soooo adorable!! You guys are just too cute! Happy Anniversary!! Love you so much!  09.28.07 - 8:02am
Sue Jean - Yay! Happy Anniversary!! I've got to say, you put a smile on my face for being so good to your teeth! :)  09.28.07 - 7:25am
Andie - Happy Anniversary! How many years? Today is my 5th anniversary, so I totally get you. And I told my honey the same thing... those things are what are romantic!   09.27.07 - 2:25pm
Jeanette - Happy Anniversary Mr & Mrs De La Torre!! Here's to 2 beautiful years of bliss...each year gets better & better!! Ü Love Mr & Mrs Garces!!   09.27.07 - 10:45am
Regina - Awh! What a sweetie....he's a keeper forsure! Happy Anniversary....  09.27.07 - 9:25am
DJ - HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! I LOVE YOU GUYS!   09.26.07 - 11:36pm
Scarlett Lillian - Totally teary eyed on that one. Happy Anniversary you guys!  09.26.07 - 10:25pm
angel swanson - you two are such a beautiful couple. happy early anniversary! :-)  09.26.07 - 10:14pm
mark brooke - J* i feel like MY wife wrote this post you two deffinately need to hang out. i think you would be awe-struck at how much you two are alike!   09.26.07 - 5:56pm
Sarah Shalley - sounds familiar...i'm the same way. i love random romanticism.  09.26.07 - 5:17pm
kristen dawn - No! I want to see the toothbrush too! Is it pink with a gum massager...?? ooooh.  09.26.07 - 1:23pm
Kristy - I think I"M in love! :)   09.26.07 - 12:54pm
ScotWharton - Am I the only person that wants to see the toothbrush? -- Is that weird? -- Happy EARLY Anniversary!  09.26.07 - 10:08am
Joyful Weddings & Events - So sweet & so true! Isn't it crazy how quickly two years goes by?   09.26.07 - 10:00am
korey - I agree!! Once, after teasing me for only eating the pink and blue gummy worms out of a bag (because he said they all taste the same), Josh showed up to pick me up for dinner with a baggy on the passenger seat--he had taken ALL the pink and blue worms out for me. I thought, "now this is love!"  09.26.07 - 9:51am
Tiffany - Hello cuteness!   09.26.07 - 9:00am
Holly McCaig - How positively adorable.  09.26.07 - 7:59am
Mary - You guys are too darn cute!!! Congrats on your upcoming anniversary! That JD, he's a keeper!! xoxo M:)  09.26.07 - 7:03am
kerri mcconnell - beautiful.   09.26.07 - 4:41am
Simply Modern Weddings - I totally agree!! Early congrats on your anniversary!! You both are so adorable!  09.26.07 - 1:42am
Shy - Oh Jazzy... I love you! haha. you are so right... you are OH SO RIGHT! xoxo  09.26.07 - 12:15am
Amy Nave - Can I get a here here:) Such a cute story. Miss you!  09.25.07 - 11:45pm
DavidHam - Meaningful romanticism, that's what I call it. You get it...and just as importantly, your spouse gets it. And being together to do "everything but nothing at once" could not be said better for me and my wife as well. I get it.  09.25.07 - 11:09pm
david baxter - congratulations you two! be happy always.  09.25.07 - 7:09pm
Justine Ungaro - What a lovely post Jasmine, I totally agree with the sentiment!  09.25.07 - 6:59pm
Jess Strickland - AMEN!!! soo true! love it!!   09.25.07 - 5:35pm
cassandra m - that is toooo sweet...just like a FAIRYTALE! I love how much your husband adores you and respect the fact that you appreciate it! heres to many many years for you two. hey is that a mimosa? yum yum :)  09.25.07 - 5:33pm
Jasmine C. - Congrats on your upcoming anniversary! :)   09.25.07 - 4:07pm
Kate Mefford - Very Sweet!!! I think we both have amazing men in our lives! =) Congrats on your anni!  09.25.07 - 4:03pm
Nataly - I completely agree with you! I love getting chocolates and flowers, but they're even sweeter when you do not expect them. Happy (early) anniversary!  09.25.07 - 3:51pm
Brianna - OMG...who took this fabulous picture and emailed it to you right away???...they sure are a great friend and a fantastic photographer to boot! ;)  09.25.07 - 3:42pm
sara anthony - Oh my, could you two be any cuter!?  09.25.07 - 3:36pm
Levell - Lets not forget about JD he needs the same thing in return. So all you ladies men loves those things too... At least I do.  09.25.07 - 3:19pm
Stacy Cross - sooo sweet. i totally know what you mean! to me it's all about the small gestures that show that they're listening to you and watching you. :) way to go, jd! yall look gorgeous in this pic, by the way!   09.25.07 - 2:46pm
Jolene - couldn't agree with you more. I just blogged about our 2 year wedding anniversary. I do love when I get flowers when I'm "supposed" to but nothing makes me happier than flowers on a random Tuesday or a love note left inside my lunch bag. You two are adorable. :)  09.25.07 - 2:20pm
C.J. Scott - Jasmine...congrats to you and JD on your upcoming anniversary! Cam and I just celebrated two years yesterday! I find random sweet gestures romantic too :)   09.25.07 - 1:41pm
gabriel ryan - carlie and i just had our tw0-month-iversary, and i would like to say that we had a romantic evening... we spent our night at a marriage seminar at our church, put on by two christian (sex) therapists (<----- can i say that here)  09.25.07 - 1:34pm
Gloria P. - I need a barf bag please. Disgustingly adorable seriously. :) And you're both gorgeous! Happy early anniversary.  09.25.07 - 1:14pm
cathy - adorable  09.25.07 - 12:39pm
Amy - Awww you guys are so cute, I love it!  09.25.07 - 12:26pm
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