02.02.12 Personal Anytime

Melanie : Five Years From Now

I
sat with Melanie in the corner of a dark restaurant. So much has changed in the course of our 15-year friendship, yet nothing has. She's still animated and slightly dramatic, and I still make fun of her and ask inappropriate questions. We met freshman year of high school and have been together through every high and low, break up to make up, and bad makeup. She's moving to New York for a bit next week and I don't know what I'll do without her.

We spoke about her therapist (all my friends have therapists...it's very Californian and I may just get one too so I can fit in and feel all cool) and the best way to approach the oncoming changes in her life.

So, my therapist asked where I see myself in five years...I really hated that question...how do I even know?!
What did you say?
I told her I've never been a person who thinks like that...it's just not me. Not now, anyway.
So it ended like that?
No, she rephrased the question and asked how I'd like to "feel" in five years.
To which you replied?
Secure. In five years I want to feel secure
That's a great word. Do you want the last bit of salad or can I finish it?
Then she said that if I wanted to feel secure, I needed to outline ways I could make it become a reality five years...and then start making them happen.

Whoa. I felt like I was having a therapy session (for free!) right then because it was just that simple. Sure, I might not know where, exactly, I want to be in five years (five years ago I couldn't even imagine my life would look like it does now), but I can attribute the emotional connections I want to experience. Once I do, I can ensure the same happens for me.

Mel, I said in between sips of my drink, I want to feel secure too. And challenged. And excited. And then we toasted to us. In five years.


A few weeks ago, Melanie asked if I could photograph a new headshot for her before hitting the streets of New York City. I'm only shooting weddings these days, but she reminded me of that one time she saved me in English Honors of sophomore year of high school...and I had to give in.


I don't wanna get all dinosaur, but RAWR.


Melanie, I hope you know how thankful I am to be your friend.


Happy Wednesday!
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Marian Majik - GREAT SHOTS! ...and maybe she is thankful be your friend too... ;)  02.16.12 - 1:49pm
Dianne - Killer shots! How could you not do a head shot for her? She's beautiful. And she's a fab friend. And of course, the English Honors thing. And ditto on the thanks for free therapy. :-)  02.13.12 - 8:41pm
Jose Chiyah - Very nice pictures, i love it  02.11.12 - 3:18am
Esquissewei - Nice portraits Jasmine. Simple, natural and fresh :-)  02.07.12 - 2:53am
Mike - I love the curly hair! Great shots. Very crisp and clean. She seems to stand out in the images.  02.05.12 - 7:43pm
Hannes Uys - Killer heels!!  02.05.12 - 12:45pm
welmoet - Melanie and your shots of her are gorgeous. What a wonderful friendship you share.  02.05.12 - 10:15am
Mireya - Thank you for the free therapy session haha  02.05.12 - 9:30am
Yarra Valley Wedding Photography - Gorgeous! Photography and model!  02.05.12 - 12:35am
Tim Gilbertson - Nice photos!  02.03.12 - 6:47pm
cassandra-m - Absolutely b-e-a-u-t-i-f-u-l !!!  02.03.12 - 12:34pm
Erin Hernandez-Reisner - This is really pretty! I love her hair. Beautiful pics.   02.03.12 - 10:26am
Cathy - J* it's a shame you aren't shooting portraits any longer. I think these are lovely.  02.03.12 - 10:17am
jo ann - She is incredibly beautiful...I hope that NYC is more than wonderful to her.  02.03.12 - 8:22am
Lo - Love my Mel. . .thanks, Jasmine, for sharing the photos. . . :)  02.02.12 - 10:27pm
Bimal - Sheer awesomeness. Thanks for the wonderful therapy session Mel and Jas! Respect.  02.02.12 - 6:52pm
Nicole Swenson - I am in LOVE with this post! It's a thinker and the photos are stunning. Thank you so much for sharing. It made me think of my BFF! The images are A.M.A.Z.I.N.G!!! WOWwwwza! Did you use a flash? Thanks for always making my day :)   02.02.12 - 5:52pm
Phil - Hey, Mel! How is it seeing a note from your uncle on Jasmine's blog? Enjoy NYC! Jasmine, my daughter's are silent fans of yours - keep up the great creativity and artistry!  02.02.12 - 5:51pm
Doerthe - Thanks, Jasmine, I needed that!  02.02.12 - 4:18pm
Papi - Amazing shots, Fathead. WOW. No, really...WOW. (Mel, Millie and I love you. And we wish you God's speed. I have beaucoup friends in NYC, most are NYPD & FDNY. You ever need anything, give me a holla).  02.02.12 - 3:33pm
Corinna - Wow, Melanie is gorgeous... hope everything goes well for her in NY.  02.02.12 - 3:23pm
Tiffany Russell - These are absolutely beautiful. So glad you share with us so that we have a chance to learn from the wonder that you create!  02.02.12 - 2:38pm
Eileen - I will double that RAWR.. she is stunningly beautiful!!!!  02.02.12 - 2:36pm
Brianna - Jeally!!! What happened to my pictures in the field, anyway?! I know I got some favors comin my way ;)  02.02.12 - 2:29pm
Bec - Isn't funny how we can get so bogged down looking at the world/future from only one perspective. How simple is that question, (and easy!) to have only changed just one word. I can so easily answer how I want to FEEL in 5 years. It's almost like, not knowing what you want, but knowing what you DON'T want. Thanks for the sweet and thought provoking post, and if I had a stunner friend like Mel, you can be sure I'd be doing headshots!  02.02.12 - 2:18pm
Alicia - Oh wow, she is sooo gorgeous! That first shot is so fun! Love the energy in it!  02.02.12 - 2:02pm
Leanne Wight - Wow, Melanie is really beautiful! What a great question to ask ourselves from time to time, How do we want to feel in 5 yrs? Hmmm...I'll be pondering this one for a while. Thanks Jasmine and best of luck to Melanie in NY.  02.02.12 - 1:22pm
Christa - A free therapy session AND gorgeous photos too...this is the ultimate blog post :) PS I wanna feel secure too.  02.02.12 - 1:08pm
Shannon Von Eschen - Oh my gosh Bianca's comment is awesome! But good grief you are all three drop dead gorgeous!! xx  02.02.12 - 12:40pm
Kathy - She is straight gorgeous!  02.02.12 - 12:30pm
Shannon of ** Happiness Is...** - Aw, Melstar. Miss her face. Beautiful portraits of her Jasmine. You captured her spirit perfectly. xo  02.02.12 - 12:29pm
Adriana Morett - I love these shots! Melanie is SO beautiful, she's going to OWN NYC... Just a quick q for you... did you use the lighten/dodge tool over her face or is that all natural light and natural reflectors? Thanks so much J*.  02.02.12 - 12:03pm
Cristal - She is absolutely GORG!!  02.02.12 - 12:01pm
Alaina Bos - She is breath-taking. I love how natural and effortlessly beautiful she looks!! Also, I miss my best friend now ;) I hope Melanie LOVES New York! I know I do!!  02.02.12 - 12:00pm
LEOLAK - Wow..this is great! Great friends are wonderful aren't they?! =) Oh and seriously, is it a rule to be GORGEOUS to hang in your group! LOL I swear all of you are absolutely STUNNING! (yes, I realize this may sound stalkerish but I can't help you post group pics to Tweeter and such lol). This is a such a great way to think about things. Much LUCK to you Melanie in NYC!!!   02.02.12 - 11:57am
Tami Inoue - Wow. What a great way to think about it...I loved this. Thanks for posting it.  02.02.12 - 10:30am
corey - Wow, J great portraits of Melanie she is beautiful...   02.02.12 - 10:23am
Michel - why is it alleys always have the most amazing light!? she is a beauty, good luck in the big apple Mel!   02.02.12 - 10:07am
Michelle Feeney - Great post J and good luck Melanie! :)  02.02.12 - 10:06am
jessica vidmar photography - I don't know Jasmine...you may have a new career ahead of you as a wedding AND portrait photographer : ) Those pics are GORGEOUS!!  02.02.12 - 10:04am
Meghan - Girlfriends are the best! She rocks those photos! And what a great way to look at the "where in 5 years" way of thinking. I might just do that too.  02.02.12 - 9:37am
Carolyn Himes - Your friendship and the images you created with her are brilliant! Loved this blog post, what a great message!  02.02.12 - 9:34am
Tiffany Farley - Love this! And the shots are gorgeous!   02.02.12 - 9:31am
dana - these images are absolutely stunning...& real...& perfect!!! LOVE the snippet of your conversation too! ;) blessings,dana  02.02.12 - 9:25am
Kay Sandifer - She is beautiful! Friends like her are gifts from God. So sounds like God has blessed you both with great gifts!:)  02.02.12 - 9:24am
Amy Jo - Good luck in NY Melanie, and, you are seriously pretty. Jasmine, these head shots rock, (sometimes it is good to leave your niche for a minute to help a friend. :) ) and I have no doubt you both will be toasting again in 5 years about your success.   02.02.12 - 9:22am
Erin Oveis Brant - Yes!! Love the sentiment (that's a five year goal strategy even I could deal with) and Melanie is GORGEOUS! dang.   02.02.12 - 9:19am
Bianca - Do you remember that one time I saved your life when we were 11 and you almost drowned in Sarah Ruffner's pool? Yeah, you owe me head shots. But I want to look like Mel ;)  02.02.12 - 9:11am
Shanna - <3 !  02.02.12 - 9:09am
Susana Cristina - That is so true. We may not know where we will be in 5 years, but we ultimately know how we would like to feel. Thanks for the insight into your free therapy session and congrats to Mel on the move! I am sure that Skype will make it easier on you both!  02.02.12 - 9:09am
Kimberly - Good luck in New York, Melanie! It's going to be a great experience! I moved from NYC 4.5 years ago, and I miss its energy. I'm going to think about where I want to be in 5 years and how I want to feel. I think I want to feel confident in all aspects of my life. Anyway, great post, Jasmine! Beautiful photos of a beautiful friend. Oh, and those heels are to die for!  02.02.12 - 9:08am
Life with Kaishon - Holy Wow. She is so pretty. I hope she loves NYC.   02.02.12 - 8:56am
Marianne - Love the headshot and the alley :) (curious of the lighting scenario used for it) Article really made me think of where I want to be in 5 years and that is stressful :-) thanks for sharing!   02.02.12 - 8:53am
Andrea - You have gorgeous friends! Good luck in NY Melanie.  02.02.12 - 8:53am
Haley Johnston - This is beautiful!   02.02.12 - 8:52am
Alexandra Punales - Question is.....Did she give you the rest of her salad! LOL. I feel the same way with my best friend. Its been 7 years so far since my sophomore year in high school. She's recently been applying to Interior Design firms in places like NY and I dread the day she won't be a 10 min drive away, but so happy that hopefully she and I no matter how far apart we are, will be in the right place that we (and God) want us to be.   02.02.12 - 8:48am
Abby Grace - LOVE that photo of her with both shoulders against the building. She's beautiful!   02.02.12 - 8:44am
Ginger - Melanie has fabulous hair!!!  02.02.12 - 8:39am
Michelle Bowman - Here's to great friends & free therapy sessions :-)  02.02.12 - 8:38am
Aisling Nelson - Thanks Jasmine - Always great insights + emotion in your posts.  02.02.12 - 8:30am
Victoria Anne Photographt - BEAUTIFUL lady! I love these portraits. So many different expressions. Great blog post too.. something we should all try to think about.   02.02.12 - 8:30am
Becky - She's beautiful! And, such a lovely description of a friendship <3  02.02.12 - 8:29am
Michelle Guzman - These are beautiful, Jasmine. It's so funny that I totally recognized her from your blog before. "Oh, that's Jasmine's friend!". :) And yay for free therapy sessions with friends. :)  02.02.12 - 8:28am
May - I like the poses, very natural.   02.02.12 - 8:26am
Matt - That's natural beauty right there, lovely.   02.02.12 - 8:25am
Christy - Just BEAUTIFUL!!!! And I love that way of looking at the 5-year question! I'm always overwhelmed by it normally - but thinking how I'd like to FEEL... now that I can do! Love it!   02.02.12 - 8:24am
Emma Richards - Your friend is incredibly beautiful!  02.02.12 - 8:21am
Bobbie Brown - Oh my goodness these images are SO SO gorgeous! I am in love with every single shot! Your friend is gorgeous...love love love her hair!   02.02.12 - 8:18am
Gail - Love how you love your besties. Mel is so beautiful. Her hair? PERFECTION.   02.02.12 - 8:12am
Evie Perez - Great pictures Jasmine!! Good luck to Melanie and her endeavors!! What a beautiful person she is.  02.02.12 - 8:08am
Gabriela Fuentes - She is gorgeous!! Hopes she likes NYC... because NY rocks lol.  02.02.12 - 7:53am
Gabby / En Route Photography - She is gorgeous!!!! In five years I wanna feel happy, in love, excited and yes... secure! ;)  02.02.12 - 7:47am
cy gilbert - Awesome, awesome post today, Jasmine! Your posing of Melanie is moving and so full of heart. Thank you for inspiring my life.   02.02.12 - 7:33am
Aisha - He who has true friends has true riches. You are so blessed to have such amazing people in your life!. This is to security and certainty five years down the road to you all. Cheers!  02.02.12 - 7:25am
Anda - Love this post and Melanie is a babe. Great shots of her!  02.02.12 - 7:14am
sherri lynn - Wow such a powerful question! I'm going to be thinking about how I want to feel in five years...   02.02.12 - 7:11am
Rachel Tatem - What a great interaction. It is great that you have held onto a friendship for so long. I hate to hear when friendships die off.  02.02.12 - 7:02am
Stephanie Stewart - So beautiful! Best of luck on your friend's move to NYC! You'll have to go visit and do more photos there!   02.02.12 - 6:47am
Chucky Woolery - Nueva York?!? Mel might need a date to help her feel secure in the big apple!?! Shall I make some phone calls? Or a list of 101 reasons why I'm an awesOme matchmaker?  02.02.12 - 6:27am
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