11.22.07 Personal

Hahpee Thainsgibbing!

Hahpee Thainsgibbing!

That’s what how my grandmother would greet us at the door to her trailer home. Delicious smells of turkey, stuffing, cranberry sauce—and the occasional Puerto Rican side dish making a discreet appearance, much to my delight—would flood her tiny dining room. She spoke with an accent thinker than the first slice of turkey, but we all understood what she said…and when we didn’t, she would reprimand us in Spanish. That was grandma. If she didn’t make sense, it was your fault. She’d then press her thin lips to our cheeks and usher us to the dinner table.

Every Thanksgiving spent without her has been particularly hard for me. Even with the 60+ years age difference, I considered her a best friend…someone I’d get my hair done with, someone I’d get pedicures with. However, I find solace knowing a part of her is still here…with me, with us. The turkey recipe is hers, as is the tradition of going around the dinner table saying what we’re thankful for.

For the past several years, my I’m-most-thankful-for has been the same: Being married to a little sliver of Jesus Christ himself (i.e. my husband), my mother’s burgeoning health, and my amazing family and friends. For without whom, I am nothing.

From the bottom of my heart, I want to wish you a very Hahpee Thainsgibbing…and if your grandmother is still around, give her an extra hug for me! ;)


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Kerri - This totally made me tear up. I felt the same way when my grandma was around. It feels as though a piece of my heart is broken.   11.05.10 - 5:19pm
kay english - Aww I love my grandmothers cooking. It's so great. Hope you had a great thanksgiving!  07.29.09 - 11:48am
Jeanette - Hi Jas! Totally understand the void in your heart without your Grandma...this was my 4th Thanksgiving without my Granny and she too was my best friend...we were bosom pals, if you will!!! My heart does take joy in knowing that she was rejoicing in Heaven about the fabulous job I did in gathering all the family together & mimicking her favorite Thanksgiving dishes...if I do say so myself!! Ü Much love!! J  11.26.07 - 10:36am
zobo - jay your so cute i love i wanna nible on your ear  11.25.07 - 6:55pm
Gloria Mesa - Hello jasmine* I am very thankfull for getting to know of your goddness...   11.22.07 - 10:15pm
david & kimi baxter - happy thanksgiving! love hearing about your grandma. mine will be 90 in a month and she's going strong. much to be thankful for. blessings everyone!  11.22.07 - 7:01pm
Julia - I love how descriptive you are describing her!  11.22.07 - 4:28pm
Donna - I totally miss my Grams and her homemade noodles today. Have a great one everybody!  11.22.07 - 2:25pm
cassandra m - Thank You Jaz for being such an inspiration to all of us. Your giving is constant year round and it makes me want to be a better person. I too am VERY THANKFUL for friends and family...even friends I have not met in person ;) Have a wonderful and BLESSED day!   11.22.07 - 10:05am
Jamie Delaine - Happy Thanksgiving to you too. :) My grandmother is still around, but seen as she's 92; this is a reminder to love everybody in our lives, RIGHT NOW! Thanks Jasmine!  11.22.07 - 9:37am
brianna - I never knew you were part of the Cleaver family! Well actually... :) Anyway, if I was at the table this year I'd say I was thankful for you, and Bi, and Mel. Tell the family I said hello and Happy Thanksgiving!  11.22.07 - 8:22am
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