04.15.14 Personal

The Notion of Busyness

As a creative, a nice status symbol is busyness. The busier you are, the more successful you appear. While it may hold some truth, it's important to take a step back and realize rest, relaxation, and play are equal indicators of success. I mean, when I hear of a friend taking three weeks off to travel, I applaud him for running such a healthy business he can afford to do such a thing (okay, and I'm also jealous...obvs). I ran across this quote from Brene Brown yesterday...

It's taken me almost nine years to understand the value of taking time to just be, as well as investing in friendship, memories, and mental health...if I could go back and tell the Jasmine Star of 2006 something, I'd say, Email will always be there...go walk on the the sunset from your backyard...plan a decadent trip for no a cupcake. Definitely eat a cupcake.

As I'm finding balance between a very busy work schedule, sweet friends have come along to ensure I stay on track. Speaking of tracks, I photographed a wedding last Saturday and though we were downright exhausted, we spent Sunday at Santa Anita Racetrack with friends, followed by a backyard BBQ. The sun set and cast shadows against our guacamole...and it was perfect.

Yesterday my best friends treated me to a cooking class at Sur La Table. We learned how to make some fancy lamb dish (to be honest, as a vegetarian, I was more concerned with refilling champagne glasses) and spent the evening catching up and laughing much too loudly.

These are the moments I want to cherish, the moments I need to keep as sacred. Sure, it's lovely being busy...but being truly present in life's simple moments are the most rewarding.
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Di - As a photographer running my own business who is also employed full time and currently remodeling my home...I definitely need to follow your lead!! At least learn to let the laundry sit right? :P  06.26.14 - 12:47pm
Ruben Nunez - The concept of "play" is all but lost in our culture. its a real shame though. Our ancestors valued it very highly and saw it as an important part of their lives. I love Mark Sisson's (daily apple) take on it, and the benefits to mental and physical health.  05.05.14 - 12:27pm
Marisa - I just finished taking a biblical counseling class at church and we had to watch a short video of brene brown - LOVED it! need to get me some more of that wisdom stat! glad you're keeping - or being forced to keep - more life in your work!  04.17.14 - 7:42pm
Courtney - This is such a refreshing and relateable (is that a word?) post. Thanks for writing :)  04.17.14 - 7:06pm
Ashley Rogers - Man, I needed this reminder! Thanks J! <3  04.17.14 - 12:10pm
Kate - Hi Jasmine, Thanks for writing this post. I hate the thought that exhaustion is somehow a badge of honour and being busy is the only barometer of success. Working hard is important but I agree with you that working smart is best. Kate x  04.17.14 - 8:08am
Norma Skinner - Good reminder to check our balance.  04.16.14 - 12:01pm
Alexis - Savoring the moments of everyday life, sweet! :)   04.15.14 - 6:53pm
Tina - Love this post! I was the same way for so long - just wanting to be busy for sake of saying "I'm busy". If I didn't have a wedding every weekend it made me feel bad, like I SHOULD be working more. This year I'm trying to change that. My weddings are nicely spaced out this year so I typically have 1 weekend off a month (even in the height of wedding season!), and I'm trying to embrace that and feel GOOD about the down time. Good for you!  04.15.14 - 12:02pm
Rebecca Nash - It's funny how reading this today caused a pang of guilt. Like the J* of 2009, I don't know how to just be. I struggle everyday because the business is not busy enough but my day job teaching kindergarten is too busy to let me do all the 'stuff' I need to do for my photography business with very few clients. Add on top of that planning our Oct wedding, taking care of my daughter & running her to activities, training for a charity bike ride (200km :S), and the day to day business of life (eating, sleeping, bathing, laundry and the rest of the stuff that gets in the way of life). I need to slow down, I need to take time for my relationship, my daughter, and myself but I don't know how. Thank you for putting this back in my face once more and saying, "so, what are you going to do about it?"  04.15.14 - 11:15am
Bobbie Brown - This post hits home with me. It took me a long time to not feel bad about saying I am not super busy. When asked, I wanted to say "I am booked up till ______!" But, finally, finally(!) I realized that it is okay to not be busy, busy, busy all the time. So now, my answer sounds something like this: "No, I am not crazy busy, but that is okay with me. I am first a Mom and then a photographer, so I like the amount of work that I am doing... plus, I feel more inspired not shooting SO much!" And truly, that is ME. It may not be that way for everyone. But that is me. And I love that I have finally figured out - and work towards all the time! - what works for me. Thanks for sharing ... and letting me share! ;)   04.15.14 - 10:46am
Amy Cheshire - Amen Jasmine!! This is so true!  04.15.14 - 9:41am
Sherri - It's almost creepy how timely your blogs oddly relevant to my 'right now'. (I MIGHT have fallen asleep in a chair editing and slept there last night for a few brief hours...)  04.15.14 - 8:30am
Marki - Thanks for the reality check. I love the photos but I think the one I like best is the back yard BBQ because it isn't perfect. You have such a great eye and your work is great but I love that one because it is just some good ol fun! Thanks again.  04.15.14 - 7:53am