A warm, goopy mess

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kid you not, I felt like I was on a burning plane with no where to run. From the moment I started, I felt like I was off...kinda like comedian starting an HBO Special with a knock-knock joke, but worse. Way worse. As I the started presentation, I heard a cricket chirp somewhere in north Ohio...it was THAT silent in the room. A large group of videographers stared at me and it was then--yes, barely just THEN--that I realized my presentation was going to be difficult.

A few months ago, I was invited to speak at the ReFrame Collective Conference in San Francisco. These amazing conferences are for videographers and cinematographers from around the world to gather and learn from the best in their field. But therein lied the problem...I'm not in their field...the attendees had NO CLUE who I was. To them, I was just a girl who spoke too fast and laughed at her own proverbial knock-knock jokes. When it was time to take a 15-minute break, I peeled myself from the podium and limped to the back of the room where JD greeted me a huge smile. It's okay, he reassured me, you're doing fine.

After a few kind souls approached me during the break and offered encouragement, I approached the podium again with confidence. I apologized if they thought I sucked, but I was merely there to share my experiences with branding and building an online presence...and, truly, I only wanted what was best for their businesses. Then the tides turned. I literally felt the energy in the room morph into a warm, goopy mess of hope and desire...and the innate ability to know one's propensity for success. And for that, I am the luckiest girl. Evah.

Many thanks to the fabulous videographers I met yesterday and I wish you only the best as you follow your dreams and make your passion a reality.


I think this picture is pretty heinous, but I thought it was pretty fun to show I laugh at my own jokes...I'm so cool it hurts...


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Sage Hall - Jasmine you were fabulous!! I'm so glad I got to see you speak. You totally inspired me and now K.I.R. has become a part of my vocabulary!  11.09.09 - 4:07pm
Lori Roche - Jasmine, you were amazing at Re:Frame! True, I had never heard of you prior to the event, but believe me... I know who you are now. You were so energetic and inspiring. I wish there were more women like you in the industry. I can only imagine what a pleasure it would be to shoot a wedding with you. Hopefully, someday I will have the chance! You have a new fan in Chicago! So great to have the pleasure to meet you.  11.07.09 - 2:47pm
Life with Kaishon - How could you ever not be funny! If I were you I would laugh at myself all day :)  11.02.09 - 8:03am
Dan O'Hara - Jasmine, many of us that are worth a grain of salt know who you are :-)... keep up the awesome work... I wish I could have been there to hear what you had to say! Many of my colleagues who attended, said you were great. Maybe we can get you to speak to our local videographers association someday?!?!  10.26.09 - 12:24am
Ronald Acosta - Hey Jasmine! Thanks for being an awesome speaker at RE:Frame!! It was great hearing you talk. You held up better than you may think. As a matter of fact, most of the speakers from the rest of the conference referenced bits and pieces from your talk such ask "K.I.R", "sell yourself", "dont be a horn tootage'er", "be your ghetto fab self"! You've made an impact fo sho! Thank you again! -Ron  10.25.09 - 11:15pm
Oren Arieli - Jasmine, you spoke from the heart and it rocked our world. We were so blessed to have you there sharing your wit and wisdom. As I mentioned to you afterwards, we got a 4 hour education in 2 hours! Hope I get a chance to work with you someday soon. Cheers!  10.25.09 - 4:47pm
Bruce Patterson - Hi Jasmine, On behalf of the rest of the Re:Frame Collective I'd just like to thank you so much for your presentation in San Francisco last week. I know that our attendees gleaned a lot of information from your energetic presentation. Thanks for not backing away from a room full of wedding filmmakers - you're knowledge and presence was invaluable - thanks again!  10.25.09 - 3:17pm
Deejay Viloria - Jasmine, I truly appreciated hearing about your beginnings. I praised Re:Frame for bringing you in becuase you emphasized the importants of relying on you to promote your business. Completely transparent, I think those of us in both our industry who are the most transparent are also the most loved becuase our clients know exactly who we are! Can I get an AMEN?!  10.23.09 - 2:03pm
joanna - ahhh! there we are! how funny to see...i'm flattered you've wanted to use some of our pics as examples. all though, everything you do turns out amazing ; ) miss you girl. xoxo  10.22.09 - 11:58pm
David Cooper - I was there and it was just a serious lot so don't take it personally. Some of the film makers there make fun of still shooters and see them as the enemy for some reason. We all loved you. REALLY! I am a still shooter and I was charmed. But on the last day there was much discussion about business cards. So you made a HUGE impression. Lots of graphic designers are going to be called in the next week for re-branding.  10.22.09 - 6:19pm
staci - oh, so funny. I love your description of the first intro of your talk. :-) Glad they ended up seeing what an inspirational person you are. :-)  10.22.09 - 12:08pm
Loyd Calomay - Jasmine! I can't believe you felt that way about your talk! We were all just stunned by your presence, good looks, and how genuinely real you were. It was absolutely one of the best talks we've ever had at Re:Frame. AND I HAD TO FOLLOW YOU!!! After getting a dose of your enthusiasm and energy, I was probably a total downer. LOL! Anyway, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for taking the time to be with us and sharing your wisdom and experience. And thank you for Keeping It Real!  10.22.09 - 11:54am
Katie Denise - I'm sure it was a fantastic presentation, just reading about it makes me wish I was there. Who wouldn't want to hear you telling knock, knock jokes. :)   10.21.09 - 5:30pm
cassandra m - sure you rocked it! and ps...its good to laugh at your own jokes. I love that pic!  10.21.09 - 12:35pm
lucy - ok why are you so skinny?  10.21.09 - 11:58am
Mike Reed - With all those video people in the room did anyone tape it? Any chance you'd share? You are such an inspiration!   10.21.09 - 10:48am
Katelyn - I'm sure you did wonderfully!....but even if you didn't... you looked pretty darn CUTE! that dress is adorable!!  10.21.09 - 8:17am
Nicole Benitez - I am sure you rocked it!! and they appreciated your open, honest approach.   10.21.09 - 7:12am
Stephanie Stewart - What a lucky group of people! I am sure they just soaked in all of your amazing spirit and passion, and I'm sure they'll be hitting up your blog and get even more inspiration from you. You Rock!  10.21.09 - 6:44am
Paul - Ya see once your honest and let your personality shine people will warm to you. It works all the time...!  10.21.09 - 5:58am
CReid - Too funny. I'm glad the session turned out!!! Regards, Carl  10.21.09 - 2:32am
Hanssie Trainor - Honey, you get points in my book for speaking to more than 3 people at once. I, uh and um and fake laugh every time I have to say more than 3 words to more than 3 people. YOU ROCK!  10.20.09 - 11:26pm
Sandra Yu Photography - any chance you'll do a live video feed?  10.20.09 - 9:59pm
Erica Velasco - They were so lucky to hear you speak!  10.20.09 - 9:57pm
sharon snow - I think the fact that you just do this, then recognize it as 'not working out', and then go back up on stage and 'work it out', is AWESOME!! You are so inspiring to me Jasmine! Last week I attended the PORTFOLIO+WORKSHOP (which was nothing short of AMAZING) in Miami! However, I almost died when Ray asked the first girl (also attending the workshop) to introduce herself, and she said "should I stand up"? I could feel and hear the silent scream coming from inside of me, saying "NOOOOOO"! I sat there tortured as each attendee introduced themself, slowly counting down to my turn and wondering if my knees would hold up when the fast approaching time came. (I got through it though- somehow). I dread speaking in public, even something as simple as introducing myself, and so reading your story makes me think of your post earlier today on Face book, about 'fear'...ok nervous just thinking about it and rambling now... ;) I'm proud of you Jasmine!  10.20.09 - 9:41pm
Eileen Bauer - I freaken hate to talk in front of people. I stuttered as a child.. but now.. when I feel confident on what I am talking about.. I CAN do it. Humor is the key..let people know you are vulnerable and , nervous.. and you will be fine.  10.20.09 - 6:34pm
Nichole - Your dress is cute! I know they did not know who you were, but how could they not like you. You have a good spirit. Glad everything worked out fine. There is nothing like having a good support system,you go JD and Jasmine : )  10.20.09 - 6:16pm
jenberry - are you kidding me. i've seen you speak. you knocked it out of the park. i don't even have to be there to know.  10.20.09 - 5:14pm
jenny - Your speech is always inspiring ! I'm sure they all learned a lot listening to you talk ! Hope you had fun in SF !  10.20.09 - 4:38pm
Tacey - Jasmine...You are fan-tastic. Your post proves a point....BE YOURSELF, be real, and give...always give genuinely and people will be drawn to you (knock knocks or not...) You have this all down to an art...Which is, of course, why you are where you are...Cheers!  10.20.09 - 4:29pm
Michelle O - Girl...you are just nothing short of fabulous, so I'm sure you did fine. Like a wonderful person once shared on FB ;) "The greatest mistake you can make in life is to continually be afraid you'll make one." If anything, I can become your sidekick and travel to your presentations with you and when you come out on stage, I can do the whole Julia Roberts thing that she did in Pretty Woman at the polo fields...You know, the whole "WHOA WHOA WHOA" and hollar from the the back to break the ice for everyone!! {{HUGS}} and keep that wonderful spirit!  10.20.09 - 3:56pm
lucy - thanks for sharing your experiences with us =)  10.20.09 - 3:31pm
michelle sidles - You're so funny!! I laugh at my own jokes, too! (funny or not!) :P  10.20.09 - 1:59pm
MelissaF - You're such a doll! There's no doubt in my mind that you did indeed win them over.  10.20.09 - 1:56pm
courtney pooler - I feel you girl. That's why I put on my blog: ' Regardless of my brief encounters with cool, I'm a hopeless dork...' Our passion for people and connections are our only saving grace... dorks with passion, unite! ;) Sooo glad Diandra connected me to your blog. xo  10.20.09 - 1:37pm
Dominoe Imus - I could not imagine doing a huge talk in front of a group of people that are in the same field as you, let alone a whole different field! I'm sure you knocked it out of the park, I only wish I could have seen it. :)  10.20.09 - 1:35pm
jamie delaine - would have LOVED to have heard you! :)  10.20.09 - 1:22pm
David of DavidHam - This is the more reason why we love you Jasmine. And I love that last photo of you. Serious made me laugh with you...and I didn't even hear the knock knock joke. ;)  10.20.09 - 1:19pm
Leyla - You are so sweet & brave for sharing your experiences so openly! It is this exact genuinity that draws people to you! Way to go girl!   10.20.09 - 12:59pm
Beki - I laugh at all my own jokes, too! Sometimes I'll think of something really funny and burst out into laughter. This is typically fine and people who know me accept this. Sometimes....sometimes it's just a little bit awkward at places such as, oh say, church.   10.20.09 - 12:57pm
Becka @Studio222 Photography - CUTE outfit! You should post a shopping guide one day. ;)  10.20.09 - 12:45pm
amber - Jasmine, I live in IOWA and I know who you are:)   10.20.09 - 12:22pm
Lindsay P - So I'm sure your presentation was great, but all I can look at is your dress because I want it. And I'm pretty sure I've said that about every post you've shown pictures from a presentation which just means I need to know where you shop, like ASAP. :o)  10.20.09 - 12:16pm
Jen Driesbach - my most favorite part of you (in reading your blog) is that you genuinely don't take yourself to seriously...and you're amazing at what you do and how you portray your life. love reading (btw in my mind you're cooler than carrie from sex and the city...it's the way you write and dress) :) - so thank you for being you it's inspiring!  10.20.09 - 12:09pm
Oakstream Photography - Girl you are tooo darn cute! Don't be so hard on yourself cause you are the worlds TOP ROCKSTAR!!!   10.20.09 - 12:09pm
Lydia - I read what the videographers were saying about you...and they think you rocked it! Silly girl, I don't think you can be anything but fabulous!  10.20.09 - 12:06pm
Catie Ronquillo - I'm sure you rocked it! Bet that warm goopy mess won over the crowd :)  10.20.09 - 12:03pm
Andy Mann - Jasmine - thanks for speaking yesterday - you did a great job - entertaining and informative. Focus and social media - awesome.  10.20.09 - 12:02pm
Greer Rivera - Who doesn't know who Jasmine Star is??!  10.20.09 - 12:00pm
amanda thiessen - im glad it went great!! thanks for sharing! :)  10.20.09 - 11:57am
michelle w. - i think that photo is CUTE! i'm sure you did great, you talked about your passion how could you go wrong! :) anyway can't wait to see you next month. Cheers!  10.20.09 - 11:46am
Harmony - clearly you are too hard on yourself because you are always great! You share your experiences and what you know, and you can never go wrong with that!  10.20.09 - 11:40am
Abbey - Jasmine, I just started reading your blog this weekend. And I have to say that you're an absolutely amazing person and photographer. I don't know if I've ever read a blog with soo much emotion. Your genuine passion for what you do and your sincere interest in helping others is a blessing! Continue to do you!  10.20.09 - 11:36am
B & Momma - We think you're hilarious. Well, kinda. ;) PS You look HOT!  10.20.09 - 11:24am
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