10.21.09 Personal

In His Shoes

Y
ou mean to tell me you packed six pairs of shoes and NONE of them are closed toe or flat?! We stood in a small storage closet in the Clift Hotel in San Francisco and I wore a face of sheer exhaustion. It was raining. My feet hurt. And we had a little time to kill before our return flight. I just finished my ReFrame presentation, and we planned to walk around one of our favorite cities in the world. But then the whole shoe thing got in the way. The bell man was waiting for us to grab a few things from our bags before locking the storage closet, but I couldn't bear the idea of walking in four-inch heels in the rain. Not even the four blocks it would take for us to get to the nearest department store.

JD quickly unzipped his bag and grabbed a pair of his shoes, gingerly passing them my way. I threw on a pair of jeans, grabbed my coat, and slipped on the oversized shoes. I didn't even care I looked like one of those fashion transgressors whose eyes are blacked out on the back of InStyle Magazine. And, oh, my coat? It had shoulder pads. SHOULDER PADS!! Internet, I was a mess, but my feet were happy. We darted out into the rain and explored the chilly streets together, shopping along the way. I was supposed to buy a pair of shoes, but--against all odds--I actually liked wearing JD's shoes. I was, literally, walking in his footprints. And it made me feel close to him.

We decided to grab a quick bite to eat at Osha Thai, and over steamy pad khee mao and yellow curry, we talked about life. And our future. Together. Once the bill arrived, I reach out and touched his hand...and thanked him for his shoes. Because, really, all I ever want to do in life is walk in his footprints.


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Peyton Cooke - You really need to write a massive novel. Make it about photography, your life, whatever. Just write. I LOVE reading your blogs. I seriously cry when I read some like this one. The anniversary one? I printed it out to show my friends. You're amazing Jasmine! :)  11.03.09 - 8:41pm
Life with Kaishon - You are my favorite writer I think.  11.02.09 - 8:02am
amanda thiessen - i loved this post!  10.28.09 - 1:07pm
Sarah - Hi, Jasmine! I've been following your blog for several months, but haven't commented before now. I just wanted to tell you how much your blog encourages me. I love your stories as much as I love your photos... and that says a lot! :). I'm just an amateur, but I always leave your blog refreshed and re-inspired. This post especially touched me. Thank you so much. God bless!  10.26.09 - 5:01pm
arielle joy - AW! Jasmine you are SUCH a good writer. I just love your blog.   10.23.09 - 7:20am
Tracy - Wow, that was equally sweet as your post about your mom. You love for your family is inspiring! Thanks for sharing!  10.23.09 - 6:53am
valerie - ahwww.... this is too sweet!! love love love ur writing besides all the fabulous photos.. really...  10.22.09 - 8:24pm
Keri Welch - I love the love that you & JD have for each other. Thank you for sharing.  10.22.09 - 7:58pm
Regina White - Awe! Very sweet. You two are wonderful and perfect for one another.   10.22.09 - 6:01pm
Jesse Tarnoff - What a beautiful post. I admire your love for love so much. Thank you for presenting at Re:Frame.  10.22.09 - 4:23pm
Renee Bell - awwww so sweet!!!  10.22.09 - 2:46pm
Jamie - Just had a rough day and that totally brought me to tears.. you are so very lucky j.  10.22.09 - 2:13pm
Carol Nanfito - I don't know if you read all your comments, but you should be a writer (and photographer of course). You write with such passion and romance...I feel a novel coming on....   10.22.09 - 2:12pm
Kayla Renckly - You are such a romantic, it melts my heart to read that  10.22.09 - 12:40pm
Nataschia - It's my hubby's sweaters... his sweaters do it for me.  10.22.09 - 12:24pm
Shelly Waldman - I can't believe you went out in the crazy rain. I was held up in my office on the 21st floor starring out watch the umbrellas pass below, wondering what I should do for lunch. And of course Osha would have been much better than cup o noodles. The best part is that you could wear JD's shoes and not have them fall off your feet. Myhusband shoes make me feel like a little girl, my feet just swim inside them.  10.22.09 - 12:13pm
twilight at morningside - only you could rock those varvatoses so perfectly!  10.22.09 - 11:57am
Christine Meintjes - you always have a way of making me smile!!  10.22.09 - 11:19am
ohana photographers - flip flops a must ;)  10.22.09 - 11:14am
Noelia Kline - You are such a hopeless romantic and I love that. I am the same way. My husband means the world to me and no matter what happens, he's always there for me. I couldn't ask for a better husband, a better partner, a better friend. He's my soulmate!  10.22.09 - 9:12am
Celesa - Jasmine you too are seriously the sweetest. It is as if you two are the bestest of friends and soul mates. I love it. You to are a great example of what love truly is! Thank you for sharing this with us. It just keeps me reminded of those little things that mean the most.  10.22.09 - 8:37am
megmanionsilliker - so lucky you are!!  10.22.09 - 7:46am
sharon snow - how cute is that story :)   10.22.09 - 7:35am
Martha Andrews - "So sweet," said the woman who wore here husbands gigantic size 13 slippers while she cruised blogs. He is out of town, makes me feel close to him:)  10.22.09 - 5:36am
dans - Can't describe how much I love OshaThai  10.22.09 - 3:14am
Christine Pobke - LOL just be sure you pack some flip flops and walking shoes when you come to Australia in a few months!!! :) And hey, could've been worse - you might have had to wear old smelly hole-y shoes (i.e. the kind my husband seems to prefer). :)  10.21.09 - 11:20pm
Lisa H. Chang - This made me smile. And seriously, who cares about fashion when you got such great shoes anyway? :)  10.21.09 - 10:06pm
melissa oholendt - I do not know what you are talking about when you say six pairs of shoes without a single one of them flats or closed-toe. No I do not. Uh uh. Certainly not something I would ever do. Perfection is a hard standard to live up to though so don't feel bad. #funniestpersonalive (oh yes, I just tweet-subjected) #needshelp  10.21.09 - 9:43pm
Ronni Haslett - I love your stories. You are such a great writer. I love my husband so much too, but have a hard time writing about it without sounds so goofy! Keep up the great work.  10.21.09 - 9:26pm
Stephanie - Ok SERIOUSLY I am going to cry right now on this post...My hubby is gone in Afgahnistan and I would so love to have that feeling...You guys are AMAZING!!  10.21.09 - 9:11pm
lena - u r thee best... problems with my husband right now and that story brought tears to my eyes, you both cherish each other like marriage is suppose to be i love the internet to read stories like this but hate it for the devil knows how to tempt the weak. Thank you for sharing...  10.21.09 - 8:58pm
Lis FaĆ­no - Oh, how beautiful! Words sweet and touching.  10.21.09 - 7:52pm
An-G - OMG! I just got teary eye! oh no.. there goes a tear down my cheek.. thanks for sharing...  10.21.09 - 7:45pm
Kathleen Porter - You two have such a beautiful relationship:)  10.21.09 - 6:46pm
Sara Mac - Your blog is my daily dose of Awwwww! I can only hope that I will have that kind of sweetheart love for my fiance long after we are married. No hope that these tiny girl feet will fit his size 11's though!  10.21.09 - 6:01pm
Giselle Sanchez - Oh, sweet Jasmine! You are an inspriation both professionally and personally. I pray that when I marry, I will be lucky enough to have even a tenth of what you have with your hubby-man! Thank you for sharing your life with us- both wonderful and painful! Perhaps you have heard this before, but you touch lives with every story, every image and every made up J* word ;)   10.21.09 - 5:57pm
Courtney - I finally had to comment to say that I love each and every single entry on this blog of yours, especially those about you and JD. Your writing is beautiful! I wish you could write a book! :)  10.21.09 - 5:40pm
Karen - I love that you find something special in everything. =] And I love Osha Thai's Pad Khee Mao!  10.21.09 - 5:18pm
imthiaz houseman - seriously....you walked outside with shoulder pads? i can understand the shoes, but shoulder pads...actually its really funny and i can't stop laughing. thank you so much for sharing that story, its amazing!  10.21.09 - 4:48pm
Events by Evonne - Awww... that's so sweet!   10.21.09 - 4:45pm
sara - seriously. i love your love story! please write a book!  10.21.09 - 4:11pm
Sarah Danaher - Jasmine, you are so, so precious. I hope to be like you when I'm married.  10.21.09 - 4:01pm
Sara - Had to comment on this entry well because I am lucky to be able to share my boytoy's shoes...we have the same size feet! Of course only the flip flops and athletic shoes...I can't find anything to wear for his "dressy"shoes yet!! I absolutely <3 reading your blog! You rock J*!!!  10.21.09 - 3:24pm
Courtney Pooler - Pretty lady, shoulderpads are the new hot thing, now! 80's throwback, they're totally back in syle! Don't beat yourself up. You were rockin' fashion's latest, and weren't even trying! Love your musings...  10.21.09 - 3:15pm
Erica M - I love reading whatever you write because you are a beautiful writer. Buuut I am also holding my breath to see Stephanie and Steven's wedding! The suspense is killing me!  10.21.09 - 3:05pm
Graciete - Good for you!  10.21.09 - 2:48pm
Doreen - Very cute!   10.21.09 - 2:46pm
Crystal - All Stars are the best! I am sure you made it look awesome.. watch everyone starts wearing oversized shoes to look like Jaz :) Lovley story too.   10.21.09 - 2:42pm
Elizabeth Luna - Thanks for sharing that :)  10.21.09 - 2:31pm
Sarina - Love Osha Thai! It's such a great place to eat at. Next time your in SF try Andalu's in Mission District. BEST TAPAS EVER!!  10.21.09 - 2:30pm
Stephanie Stewart - Such a sweet story! Love it! Reminds me of the day after our wedding day...I had forgotten to pack pants to wear, so I ended up borrowing a pair of my new hubby's pants, which actually matched the rest of my outfit! They were very comfortable as well, and we took photos to remember it. Good times! Thanks for sharing!   10.21.09 - 2:28pm
Laura Lawson - Jasmine, once again, your blog post brought me to tears. So glad that you were able to see a bit of my hometown, despite the rain!  10.21.09 - 2:01pm
Keshia - I love your writing, it's one of the reasons why I visit your blog daily! I love your photography as well.  10.21.09 - 1:54pm
Monica - My fiance has the same shoes in black! ((They are comfortable)) :) Beautiful post as always  10.21.09 - 1:50pm
Penny - I love your writing and your look on life ... :-)  10.21.09 - 1:34pm
Pol - Beautiful story! :) I love wearing my husband's shirts and jackets for the same reason.  10.21.09 - 1:33pm
Wendy - Dude, I must be hormonal because I cried reading your story! Last night it happend to - just started reading New Moon - BAM I was BAWLING! Haha. I think its because my hubs is away working.. Anyways thanks for sharing your story. <3   10.21.09 - 1:33pm
RE - Beautiful post! Just tender love!   10.21.09 - 1:30pm
Larry Reevese.. - oh...you, two! this post makes me want to go buy a pair of converse!  10.21.09 - 1:23pm
Jessica Shae - Ok. y'all are officially the cutest couple EVER. :)   10.21.09 - 1:23pm
Dasha - Agh... You reminded me of the day after my wedding. I was wearing very (I mean VERY) high heel shoes on the wedding day, cause my dress was too long, and I don't even have to say how it felt. We had to organize couple of things the following day, as my husband of one day had to go back to Ireland from Russia, where our wedding took place. I had nothing with me in the hotel, only a skirt (don't have any idea how it got there), but he had some of his clothes. So, I ended up going around wearing his jamper that looked XXL on me and his converse shoes. He went back to Ireland the next day (I had to stay and finish college). That was probably the most comfortable clothes I've ever worn. And that time was the happiest in our lives. Your post brought those memories back and smiles to our faces! Thank you! )))  10.21.09 - 1:20pm
Tasha Prescott - You two are so cute. I saw him tweet during your presentation "Watching my beautiful wife..." and thought, their love is so sweet... I love love love the chucks! I shoot in nothing but chuck taylors, like you and your cowboy boots lol   10.21.09 - 1:14pm
Leyla - Such a sweet, sweet post!! I love how wonderful & beautiful your relationship with JD is... I hope it always stays the same... =) Thanks for sharing! http://leylasroom.com/category/reading-and-spirituality/  10.21.09 - 1:09pm
Lydia - So sweet!  10.21.09 - 1:05pm
jem - Such a sweet story...reminds me how I feel about my man. How blessed you two are!  10.21.09 - 1:04pm
Tracy (Serendipity Images) - That is so sweet! <3  10.21.09 - 12:53pm
Bobbie Brown - Okay, I have chill bumps from reading this!  10.21.09 - 12:53pm
cassandra m - another "ahhhh" moment. Love it!  10.21.09 - 12:42pm
Christopher - Cool story. . .but the icing on the cake? Converse All*Stars.  10.21.09 - 12:33pm
Barbara Holland - What a great anecdote! So sweet!   10.21.09 - 12:01pm
Lucy - Osha Thai is a really awesome restaurant :) Hope you can come back to the city again for another presentation :)  10.21.09 - 11:56am
michelle w. - awwwh, i love this posting. not that i don't love the others (hee hee) but it's so romantic and has such a kindred spirit about it...to me anyway!!!   10.21.09 - 11:52am
Tira J - Perfect post! I think a lot of us should consider walking in our spouses shoes, or others who work so hard for the life we get to live. I just thought about this yesterday when my husband had some home dog tired from working so hard. I looked at him and loved him even more for the steps he takes in his shoes to provide for the life we have together. Thanks J*! Oh, and JD, you have pretty good taste in shoes! :)  10.21.09 - 11:51am
TH - Love this...sometimes simple things in your daily remind us how precious life is. And it takes a great person like you to notice...  10.