Appreciate Yours

W
e walked through the streets of San Francisco when I stopped dead in my tracks. I saw the window display from a distance, but the closer I got, the more I realized it revealed a really ugly side of my heart: Jealousy. Straight-up, shaken, and dirrrrty. In the window display was six oversized photos of a model. And the photos? They were remarkable.

JD tugged on my hand when he realized I had stopped walking beside him. He was hungry and wanted breakfast, and all I wanted was to be someone else. He asked me what was wrong. I'll never be as good as X...I'll never see the way he does...I can never shoot like him...it's just not in me... Quizzically he debated getting into the conversation there on Pine Street or over an omelet ten minutes later. He knew what I meant. And it's a long story.

Lately I've been struggling with the merits of my own work and my photographic style. I look to others in this amazing industry and I envy their ability to document life in a way I simply don't know how. And the window display reminded me of a friend's work who I absolutely love...work I will never be able to capture like he does. Then JD reminded me of something...

We all have our own unique abilities. Don't focus on what others can do, but, rather, what you can do to make yourself better. You taught yourself photography, and you're getting better each day...don't envy his work. Appreciate his work. And appreciate yours.


And there it was. The Truth. Simple appreciation of other work that inspires me to get better...and appreciation of how far I've come. Flaws and all.
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Peter Togel - Your are unique indeed! Never give up. Life is a step by step process. One step at a time. One picture at the time. One moment at a time.   10.25.14 - 12:12pm
meagan - Thank you for sharing this. My reaction is almost a year late, but this post is exactly what I needed to hear today. I've been dealing with some similar feelings, and been praying diligently for a work to be done on my heart. But, it's nice to hear/read that someone (who's work I adore) has been there with me. :)  02.14.11 - 6:41pm
Tracy - That is how I feel when I look at YOUR work! Not jealous, but that I will never be that good. Thanks for the reminder to focus on me and doing what it takes to get better!  09.22.10 - 12:23pm
Vic - UGH...I needed to read this tonight. You, girl, are a true blessing to this girl over here in baby land! I believe in your work and abilities, and look forward to the day when all of the inspiration I have gained from you... betters my reality!  05.31.10 - 11:12pm
anna dennis - j, you are crazy (for not appreciating your work and what you've accomplished... especially when you have so many followers/fans/people who absolutely admire you) and amazing, for still being human. x, anna k dennis  05.19.10 - 8:37am
Jessica Shepard - Thank you for sharing this moment in your life. It's good to know that we all have brief moments of self-doubt.  05.12.10 - 12:52pm
Shannon Schwabe - I love how real you always keep it! Thank you for sharing, and know that there are so many of us out here that feel that same way about your work! Looking forward to seeing you at Escalate!  05.09.10 - 11:46am
Josh Gruetzmacher - This is really awesome. I love that I was stalking around on your blog when I read this :) Very well put. Thanks for sharing.  05.06.10 - 7:22pm
Sharon Mc B. - Oh my . . . I could have written this very same EXACT post about YOUR work compared to the limits I see in myself . . . Stunning is just the first word I'd use to describe your talent and vision.   05.04.10 - 11:32am
amy boring - Hi Jasmine, This is a good thing and I think we as photographers go through this every so often. Usually, for me, I find that is when i am ready to try new things, push myself to see and approach the ART of what we do with a different mindset. For myself I don't really find that I compare myself to the likes of anyone but do get on my own case for getting stagnant and complacent in my ways. I know there are always going to be people more skilled and better than myself but there is only one me and only one you. Work it girl. :) Take some time and push yourself to do something completely out of your comfort zone. It will revitalize you. Promise.   05.03.10 - 12:54pm
Holli Dowdy - I read this post and I just want to tell you...PUMP THE BRAKES. lol. You are amazing. I have read your blog and admired your photos for over a year. Your photos and this blog have inspired me to try photography. I am buying my first camera this month! And my thoughts were "I'll never be as good as her." :) You are talented and your pictures take my breath away. So, no insecurity. Keep bringing that "thing" you have inside of you that makes you create these beautiful pictures and inspiring others the way you do. And none of your backtalk. :)  05.03.10 - 9:43am
Breanne - I'm hypercritical of my own photographs, so thanks for sharing your own insecurities... because you're one of the ones I aspire to be as good as. Your work inspires me daily Jasmine and so do your words. :)  05.01.10 - 11:55am
Mark Leonard - Nate Kaiser once said something simple and true on this topic: "When you compare your work to other's, you always compare your worst images with their best images." Remembering this always seems to boost me a little.  04.29.10 - 2:10pm
Emily Lewin - That's so good to hear Jasmine! I've been tempted more than once to do the same with you and other amazing photogs who I regularly blog-stalk...I made the decision to continue to press in for what I have, my own unique expression and eye, rather than comparing and to use what I value in other photographers to push myself to grow...and you're one of the ones I look to for inspiration! So thanks for carrying on with your fabulous work! :)  04.29.10 - 1:53pm
Monica Martin - Thank you for posting this. I'm constantly comparing myself to other talented photographer's....and I need to stop!   04.28.10 - 6:50pm
tangie - amen, sister. I could go on and on of course about how many of us are absolutely GAGA over you, your style, your eye... tis true. but I did just want to say that when I read the post about your mom recently, it made me think about how she helped you to see the way you see. and you see gorgeously. precious gift that no one else can replicate.   04.28.10 - 3:39pm
Braedon Flynn - Good words Jasmine! For a girl that has 260 (so far) comments on this post alone, you have quite a talent. It's your whole package! Your fans adore you and you're an inspiration. I think all of us artists are never content with our own work. That gives us the drive to be more creative and better.   04.27.10 - 10:00pm
Lena - J*, let me tell you - I look at your work, and feel utterly and completely the same way! Your work is AMAZING! I only aspire to have the quick mind (and as you already know probably from my other comments) no flash creativity that you do. I am constantly struggling to find the type of photographer I am in myself...and just when I think I have it...I do something stupid that makes me totally doubt what I know about myself... and then, I find something new! You are the one photographer, (and JD too, because you guys are equally amazing) that I keep finding myself going back to. The one that I look at the shots and say... I want to do that! The one that keeps me going... I could never be as brave as you were... and look at you now! :) J*, YOU ROCK!! :) <3 XOXO  04.27.10 - 2:02pm
Amanda - Oh Jasmine, I thought I was the only person who goes to that place in their mind. You are so awesome and successful and I am struggling to make a name for myself and be mom and because it is so hard I just assume it's because I'm just not good enough...... and then I knock myself for not believing in myself. Vicious cycle. Thank you for your honesty. It makes me realize that regardless of who you are there will be fears but they don't have to be a bad thing. I desire your posts like air. Love you!  04.27.10 - 1:38pm
Lydia - As you can tell by all the lengthy comments, it's something we all struggle with! In some ways it's helpful because it causes us to push ourselves to a new level, but it can become destructive if our focus remains on others and turn to envy and jealousy. Thanks for keeping it real, girl!  04.27.10 - 12:33pm
Bobbie Brown - It is hard to believe that you feel this way. Though I know you do, b/c you said so, and b/c you are human! But I say it is hard to believe b/c I myself look at your work sometimes and feel these same feelings you just described. Thanks for being honest and for this post. Thanks for your images and the way you share and inspire. Thank you!  04.27.10 - 11:35am
Janette Smith - Jasmine, you're incredible and such an inspiration... I only hope to be as good as you one day!! You're a great photographer and each of your photo blogs and wedding slides tell an incredible story only you could tell! don't change... stay fabulous! ;]   04.27.10 - 10:09am
schantel Van der Merwe - Wow! Jasmine, I never expected to hear this from you, but I must admit I feel like this a lot, and I sometimes don't give myself the credit. But I am glad to see that others feel the same sometime. Thanx for being such an inspiration.  04.27.10 - 6:57am
diane (www.sagephoto.com) - I've questioned myself many times and felt the same way you described...I don't think any of us haven't felt this from time to time but as JD explains....appreciate how far you've come and celebrate your unique style and be proud of your work.  04.27.10 - 5:01am
kayode - It's great you can be do honest with your feelings Jasmine. Too true though  04.27.10 - 12:12am
Lil - Long time blog ready first time commentor. I can truly realate to this post. As cheesy as this may sound I compare my images to yours and tell myself the same exact thing you just shared on your blog. JD it's righ, we need to appreciate our own style and improve each day. I must admit that you and many other photographers constantly inpire and challange me in my own photography journery. Very simple, thank you. Thank you for sharing you and thank you for sharing your love and knowledge, much appreciated.   04.26.10 - 9:56pm
Diana - I am constantly checking your blog for new work all of the time. Everytime you post something new, I am baffled (in a good way) by your creativity, and your stunning images. I look to you for inspiration and hate to say it, but ideas as well. Your images are creations and I can only hope to capture memories as beautiful as yours.   04.26.10 - 7:27pm
christina - love this! so very very true...  04.26.10 - 2:49pm
Jaime - Amen.  04.26.10 - 11:21am
Heather Hnzdil - I can hardly imagine you having any issues with this! It's like I'm addicted to your style of photography. I check your blog everyday. By now, my sisters think I'm crazy that the first thig I do after a long weekend away is fire up my computer and see if you've posted. I have thought those sam thoughts you have, only YOU, my ear, were on the recieving end. Thank you for shring your gift.  04.26.10 - 10:06am
Erin Hernandez-Reisner - Every now and again more often than not I have the same thought and feeling. The times when it stops me in my tracks are the worst because I carry those images and that feeling with me all day. It blows my mind how amazing photographers can be, how open they are at seeing the world, and how new it all is. I sometimes wish that I could see things that way, or newer, or fresher. Then I look back at where I came from and 3 years has gone by really fast. I also look at my goals and see that in 10 years I will meet them, and somewhere in the middle I will forget that I stopped frozen at that store, billboard, or page in that magazine. And what those photographers did is an udder blessing. It is just hard to realize it now; to have the wisdom that only God can bring, sure it's easy after the fact but not in the heat of your heart melting to your feet, it's difficult to see everything clearly when you know that there is more tucked away inside you waiting to come out. Everyone should always be thankful that there is more that can come out. Those Photo geniuses they are the drive that makes us better, they are the windows to the new world, and for now they are our inspiration. You inspire me Jasmine, your so open to life. I am constantly blown away by God and how he has blessed you abundantly.   04.26.10 - 8:45am
Susan P - jasmine! it's encouraging to see that you struggle with the same issues we do...because many of us see YOU as that person we compare our work too and wonder if we'll ever be as good as you :) so know that YOU are wonderful and YOUR photography is wonderful! thanks for the reminder that I need to be proud of how far I have already come (being someone else who has had to teach myself everything, too)...your work inspires me to keep learning, playing, practicing, and enjoying every minute of this ride...thanks! :)  04.26.10 - 8:08am
Daniel - JD = wise man ; )  04.26.10 - 6:19am
Mark - Thank You, Thank You, Thank You for saying the TRUTH that we all need to hear daily. It's nice to hear that YOU actually have the same feeligs that most of US do, but about your work.  04.26.10 - 3:13am
Evonne & Darren Photography - OMG, I feel the same way and my hubby says exactly the same thing that JD said to you! I am glad I am not alone! Thank you for sharing!  04.26.10 - 3:12am
Kaysha - I struggle with this all the time!! I find its better to be honest with yourself about it, rather then put another person down, which seems to be the first reaction sometimes. Thanks for sharing this, your not alone!   04.25.10 - 11:10pm
Lisa H. Chang - I love your style! You capture people as their most natural and genuine selves. There's not a fancy name for it, other than beautiful. :)  04.25.10 - 10:20pm
sharla - so true!thanx for always being honest. I love reading your blog:)BTW I swear I saw you on an episode of private chefs of beverly hills??  04.25.10 - 10:00pm
Karen - I love that you're always keeping it real by sharing your own insecurities.   04.25.10 - 8:56pm
Jade Alayne - I often feel the same way. JD is so right though! What a wonderful and inspiring husband you have!   04.25.10 - 8:55pm
Damien Franco - I appreciate your honesty. Clearly, by looking at the comment count on this post, I'm not alone in that sentiment. Thank you.  04.25.10 - 8:01pm
sara - Thank you Jasmine for being so transparent. In my times of artist envy i picture God laughing at me...b.c. he simply made everything and here we are with our little watermarks and logos claiming it to be ours. yes, we have our copyrights but we all must not forget who created love, all people, all the beautiful flowers, and...weddings...if it wasn't for Him we would be out of work. lol. love really does keep the lights on. ;-) Keep up the amazing work, you inspire me to no end! You are a breath of fresh air my dear!  04.25.10 - 6:39pm
Linda Sherrill - Perfect analogy. I struggle with this all the time. Basically, I just remind myself that I am who God says I am and He made me. We all have our unique gifts and niches. Otherwise, we would all be taking the SAME pictures.   04.25.10 - 5:27pm
Amanda - DO you even know how many of us want to be YOU? We actually talk in our PUG groups about someday "living the jasmine star life". We love you and admire you - but I know the jealousy you are talking about. It makes me feel like a bad person to admit i feel that way - but at least it's honesty. Keep doing what you're doing. A photo tells as much about the person behind the camera as the people in front of it. Your work speaks volumes about love and simplicity and JOY and vulnerability. Be proud of where and who you are and remember that there are thousands of US who aspire to be YOU.  04.25.10 - 4:50pm
Melissa J - Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability and for sharing JD's wisdom with the rest of us.   04.25.10 - 4:45pm
Theresa - True words for every artist on the planet.... Even Photographer X... If you weren't a wee bit jealous, you would no longer be growing as an artist!   04.25.10 - 4:27pm
Brian Fletcher - Great post, Jasmine....I have been there myself, trust me!  04.25.10 - 2:57pm
Nick - great post! and i really appreciate your work! amazing stuff.  04.25.10 - 10:55am
Daniel - And you've come, oh so far my girl. You inspire US.  04.25.10 - 8:56am
Liz - Thanks for the great post! Appreciate his work and appreciate yours. Wise word!  04.25.10 - 5:08am
Wales Wong - you've turned lemons into lemonade. we all can easily feel jealous but you focused on the "good", using it as inspiration instead of letting it make you feel bad. there's so much to be said for knowing how to think that way that also inspires others. TY =)  04.24.10 - 10:11pm
Mandy Kopp - This was a much needed post for me right now - such a great reminder! Thanks for sharing!  04.24.10 - 8:22pm
Apple - awww. the two of you's such a team!<3 we all feel that way at times jas! thanks for the reminder! i don't really know who x is, but i'm pretty sure i'll still be following you than him even if his works are as fab as you say they are 'cause as you preach, we don't follow for the photography.. we follow the photographER!:)  04.24.10 - 8:19pm
Katherine - Amen!  04.24.10 - 7:45pm
Ed Goodfellow - I think we all go through this, from time to time (unless we're, like, super-arrogant). My friend and I were out doing some landscape photos this evening. We stood side-by-side and took completely different pictures. People will (and do) go to you for YOUR look, not because you're better than one person, or not quite as good as another. I read your blog all the time; not because I want to be like you, because I don't. I read it because YOU (and your photography) inspire ME. I read your posts and look at your photos because they make me want to keep on working at my photography and at my business. Maybe I'll never be as good as you, maybe I'll be wonderful, but in my own way. Maybe there's room for all of us......  04.24.10 - 7:30pm
Hannah Braboy - That is so very true!  04.24.10 - 7:25pm
Brenda Janairo - At the beginning of my journey as a photographer, I didn't look at other people's work. It was only a few months ago that I discovered your amazing work, in addition to some of your awesome photographer friends. I started to doubt myself, and felt that I had no place in this industry. However, something happened. The more I looked at all you talented photographers, the more open I became in welcoming creativity into my work. You are an inspiration to so many people, especially women trying to make it in a industry that has historically been male-dominated. Thank you for inspiring us. Continue to be who you are. It is your unique style that has brought you all this well-deserved success.   04.24.10 - 5:08pm
a little bit of whimsy photography - I've followed you long enough to know that you are serious about these feelings.. But Really J*... Come On Girl... You've got to stop this self doubt malarkie.. . Chin up.. go on and get um.. whatever it is.... this ain't cute!!  04.24.10 - 3:58pm
Cynthia - Girl! I know how you feel I feel the exact same way but about you. Your work. I feel like I will never get there. But hey at least you have the opportunity and equipment to get to the point where you want to be. I'm over here trying to do what you do with a rebel and one lens. So keep your head up. And always remember it's all about Gods plan and time.  04.24.10 - 3:24pm
donna good - how very true. thanks for your honesty.   04.24.10 - 1:13pm
bev hawley - Just ran across this quote by Oscar Wilde and it so fits with your post. "Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Thanks for being you.  04.24.10 - 12:58pm
Sarah Wilkes - This post made me feel so much better. :) I think we're all our own toughest critics. The great thing is that we can keep learning all the time. xoxo Jasmine!  04.24.10 - 11:56am
Ashleigh Jayne - Jasmine - Never change. I absolutely love the simplicity of your photography. There are so many wonderful photographers out there that try and really make their photos have more of an "artistic" appeal... which is great! BUT, the fact that yours actually look so natural like you truly caught that moment in their lives speaks so much louder. You should be proud and know people look at your work how you look at others. Be blessed!  04.24.10 - 11:40am
Katelyn james - Whew! You can tell when hit on something super sensitive. The comments come flowing in! I can't imagine any photographer not struggling with this! Thanks for being vunerable, once again:)  04.24.10 - 9:37am
Heather Armstrong - So perfectly said. This hit so close to my heart. Tears literally ran down my cheeks as I read this. Thank you for being so real!!! Thank you for being you!! You are amazing & are changing lives one blog post at a time!!!  04.24.10 - 8:42am
melanie - Amazing blog and such inspiration for those of us {me} who has self taught thus far. Gives me confidence to keep striving for making my photos and myself better!! Thanks again.  04.24.10 - 8:26am
Allison Rodgers - Glad to know I'm not alone in this struggle - no one beats me up better than me :) I call it drive and it has gotten where I am currently with my business, BUT it can be a painful journey. Thank you for being transparent :)   04.24.10 - 8:20am
Michelle - JD is completely right!! But at the same time I know exactly how YOU feel as I feel this way whe I look at your photos for example. I have to remember that I have only been at this for about a year and HAVE come a long way in that time. I think you have to always want to be better at your craft otherwise, what's the point. :) You rock girl...don't let anyone make you feel differently!!!  04.24.10 - 8:20am
Evie Perez - Thank you times a million for writing this post!!! I have a sigh of relief that this is a normal feeling and everyone feels like this. I thought whenever I feel like this something was wrong with me. You are you and that is what is so great about you!!! God created us with different styles, and that is what sets up apart from others!! There are so many things that you do that I wish I could do. You have an amazing and wise husband!!! Keep on believing in yourself !!! Just remember I am not where I want to be but thank God I am not who I use to be - Joyce Meyer (quote)!!!  04.24.10 - 8:04am
Girish - I think it's one of the lessons each one of us has to learn and keep learning at various stags of our lives and career.  04.24.10 - 8:01am
Megan. Siana - Thanks for your honesty. I need the same reminder. :)  04.24.10 - 7:42am
Erica Rose - Well said, JD. That's a wise one you have there...  04.24.10 - 7:18am
Erin Spivey - Wow, Jasmine, if you ask my fiance he will tell you that I saw the exact same things to him daily, but in my version I say it about YOU...and not just in photography, but in life. Your passion and inate talent for what you do and your compassion for others and your love for the Lord are what makes you stand out in an industry that is virtually flooded with fantastic talent. It helps so much to hear you, the photographer whom I most aspire to be like, say the same thing that I feel all the time. So thank you for sharing, and thank JD for me for being the husband that my fiance aspires to be like!  04.24.10 - 7:12am
Christy Frazier - Thanks, I so needed this.  04.24.10 - 6:13am
gopi - superb blog  04.24.10 - 4:40am
MelissaFoscardo - Just like all the others have said before, I struggle with this daily. There's a fine line between being inspired by someone else's work and being jealous of it. I go back and forth over that line A LOT! It amazes me that you struggle with this too, given the superior quality of your work, not to mention, your fantastic personality and relationships with your clients. I guess what this post proves to me is at the end of the day, we are all human--rockstar photographer down to the newbie like me and everyone in between. As usual, you have shared a part of yourself with us that makes us all feel less alone and able to identify with you even more. Thank you!  04.24.10 - 4:19am
Suki - Everytime I come here I am inspired by you. You are an amazing photographer and you have come such a far way. Don't envy others because the way you put emotions in your work is different from others and so are your pictures. I know sometimes you are at a point where you don't like the way the picture comes out and in my opinion it is okay. Just push yourself a little more to do something you really like. Love, Suki  04.24.10 - 3:05am
Andrea - I've read a lot of blogs.. have viewed a lot of galleries.. and yeah.. there is some pretty amazing work out there. But in all honesty, your blog is the only one that has ever brought tears to my eyes. And at the end of the day, pretty pictures are great.. but being able to move and inspire with beautiful images and thoughtful words.. well, that makes the photographer great.   04.24.10 - 12:51am
Mel - The times I have looked at your photos and other people's photos and thought: "I am just not good enough." are countless. And then I force myself to look where I started 18 months ago and then look at where I am now... and consider where I might be in 18 months. Thanks for that. Somehow it reassures me that even you have moments of doubt.   04.23.10 - 11:40pm
Michael - love it  04.23.10 - 11:20pm
Inland Empire Wedding Photographer - I just saw you on top chef of Beverly Hills. how was the food?  04.23.10 - 11:09pm
BevF - You have a wise husband!  04.23.10 - 10:35pm
Beth - I almost let that feeling stop me from pursuing photography. But I've decided to start out and go for it anyways as of this week. Thanks for this post!  04.23.10 - 10:25pm
creativeKayt - First, I'd like to thank you for your raw honesty. Second, I'd like to ask if you've gone crazy! (I'm kidding, of course.) I completely understand where you are coming from. Yet, do please pause. Breathe. And remember that you are one of the top wedding photographers out there for a reason. Your talent is a huge part of that success. Who "You" are is also a huge part of that success. Your work inspires just as intensely and passionately as what you felt while staring at the window. You have an incredible eye and the perspectives you capture are encourage and call us all out to "get better" and "push" our skills. Keep your awesomeness coming, girl! And, thank you for what you've shared with us so far.  04.23.10 - 9:15pm
Raised In Cotton~Carol - Dear Jasmine~ We of course are our worst critics especially when it comes to things we are so passionate about~because of your wonderful influence , I went on my first real paying job as a photographer for a magazine editor a few weeks ago. So you see sweet Jasmine~your work touches many of us who will forever be greatful for your beautiful visual artistry and inspiration. JD is a keeper and a great cheerleader:) Blessings, Carol  04.23.10 - 8:26pm
Rebekah Elena - You know, there comes a time in the life and career of every professional artist where marketing and people skills no longer cut it. In one of my recent blog posts I talked about one of my reasons for pursuing photographic fame in a manner much different than I had originally planed. I see so many professional photographers become content with their careers and they never truly focus on their artwork or strive to improve...they get so caught up in the business side of things that they don't focus on making art...so one day it will, very sadly, fade away. At the end of the day, only art will remain. You'll never be able to capture images like photographer X, but if you focus on your artwork, no one will ever be able to capture images like you.  04.23.10 - 8:12pm
Dee - Wow... it's like you looked into my mind and heart when you wrote this post. Amen sister-girlfriend! :)  04.23.10 - 7:58pm
Pol - You have a smart and special hubby! (and if it makes you feel better, did a shoot recently and lamented that it didn't look like yours!)  04.23.10 - 7:49pm
Leah - Hmmm. Funny, I felt the same way when I left a certain workshop on Tuesday. I wasn't struggling so much with jealousy as inferiority. Thanks for this post, I feel a (little) bit better!  04.23.10 - 7:29pm
Kristin Partin - there really is no point in mentioning the obvious or otherwise previously mentioned about 182 times....but you are unique, beautiful and you see peoples souls. Your photos speak to me just as clearly as your words. I'm sure one of your goals for J* Photography is to make people happy, and even if it was only one person, you make me happy. That should be plenty to hang your hat on because I KNOW for a FACT you make millions of people happy! and your legs are fiiiine by the way. that's right. I'm a girl and I said your legs are fiiiiiiiine! I'm done now. -kristin from the other side of the US.   04.23.10 - 7:13pm
plain_jo - just so you know thats how i feel when i look at your work. Thanks for letting us know your human too :)  04.23.10 - 6:24pm
grace @ the cinderella project - what a great post. i feel this way too in the wedding industry, but it's inspiration to help us all become better at our professions. good luck! http://thecinderellaproject.blogspot.com  04.23.10 - 6:13pm
Tonya Todd - Jasmine- this is my first time posting and I just had to respond. I am seriously wiping a tear right now. I have been feeling the same way these past few months. It is such a good feeling to know that those (you) I envy (I mean appreciate) have the same struggles. If you haven't read "The Artists Way" please pick it up and read about -Morning pages- it is amazing. Keep up the great work and you are ADORABLE!  04.23.10 - 5:37pm
Brandi - I get those moments too. "Holy crap, I will never be good enough!" But, I have to shake myself and I appreciate where I have gotten to thus far.. and be excited about where I will go in the future.   04.23.10 - 5:24pm
Andryo - Well I guess this goes not just for photography, but every aspect in life itself. Nice one.  04.23.10 - 4:58pm
Gaby - Reading your posts, I wonder: Did J* secretly enter my brain and read my thoughts. I'm so glad I found this blog. Every day, I look forward to reading them, and today you have touched me very deep. I also struggle with, ALL the time. This is my second year as a full time photographer, and on every shoot, I question myself and my pictures. I look at other photographers' work, then look at mine, and I wonder if I should even bother. But then, a ray of hope; hearing from my brides how happy they are with their albums and how they will cherish them for the rest of their lives. A reminder that it's not all about me. Girlfriend, you are a great photographer, and your work is the one on the window display for the 12K followers you have on FB. Happy Friday.  04.23.10 - 4:55pm
Amy Pinney - It completely baffles me to read this post. It's like it's coming from me....but it's coming from YOU. For me, YOU are X....it's so humbling to read this for me. To know that you share the same struggles as me, to want to learn more....to learn THAT one thing that you can't seem to get...you are incredible J*...and I hope you know how amazing and inspirational you are!  04.23.10 - 4:36pm
Drea Wood - Its inspiring to hear that you struggle with those thoughts 2... you are an amazing talent. Thanks for the inspiration.   04.23.10 - 4:36pm
Lindsey - If it makes you feel any better, that is how I feel about my work, when I look at your work. :)  04.23.10 - 4:35pm
Heather LaBone - I only read Michelle Parish's post, and I believe she said it all! We are all amazing in our own special ways.   04.23.10 - 4:34pm
kelsy mccartney - what a great post! i think we've all been there, and i can 110% relate to that jealous self you saw in the window display. in this industry we all admire one another and learn/grow from connecting with one another, which is the best part of being a photographer! no one can take your eye, your vision. it makes you you. and jasmine, you have a fantastically inspiring eye, so keep up the great work!! and keep on keeping it real, because that's why we all love you!  04.23.10 - 4:34pm
Katie Mauer - Puh-leez! I hope you realize that there are a ton of people out there (me included) that are admiring your work and thinking, "If only I could capture things the way Jasmine Star does..." I look to you and your blog and your photos for inspiration, and I almost ALWAYS think, "I need to learn how to do THAT!"  04.23.10 - 4:27pm
Aria - Thank you for such a sweet and honest post. We ALL feel that way (actually, I can't believe YOU feel that way, too!). I love the notion of appreciating your own style and not comparing it to others. It's a beautiful reminder to us all. Your work is inspiring. Keep doing what you do, because it is just downright amazing, and completely YOU.   04.23.10 - 4:23pm
Michelle Parish - I think you could fill a book with this theme. Honestly Jaz, I'm secretly glad to know that YOU envy other's work, when I think you are so amazing and you blow me away with. every. single. post. You were once asked the question by a "Jasmin-ite"(my word for all us wannabes), as to what made your work stand out...what made you in demand...what made your work different and sought after... Your response will simple and truthful...You said it's "me". And that has stayed with me ever since. You stated that we are all at different levels, but all capable of more, but what sells your photos, and gets you more referrals, is the relationships that you build with your clients. And isn't that more beautiful that any photo that you have ever seen? Keep Inspiring us. Keep Pushing us. Keep Loving us. As much as we do you...  04.23.10 - 4:11pm
Kimberly !!!! - Jasmine-this post is like my God wink. I've been thinking/praying/struggling with this very same thing. It's like He put those words on your mind, you typed them and He was thinking of me the whole time. So I selfishly thank-you. Thank-you. Thank-you.   04.23.10 - 4:10pm
Hadassah Bullis - Ah, Jasmine, this is exactly my thoughts...on YOUR photography! lol I'm often jealous about many photographer's work and what's worse is that I don't feel like I will ever compare or get it right. But you are right, I need to appreciate what I CAN do, instead of what I can't... Thanks for posting this - It's good to know I'm not the only one.  04.23.10 - 4:08pm
lumikha - awww...i'm so glad i found your blog. google recommended you to me and i'm so glad google did that. i really appreciate your honesty and openness. i feel like that sometimes too...and your husband JD sounds like such a great guy. thanks for maintaining this blog and also doing what you love and being yourself. -Mariel  04.23.10 - 4:00pm
Gabriel Mora - I've been following your work and I know exactly how you felt because I've felt the same way when I look at your photos. Through your work you really define the difference between a simple picture and an artistic photograph where the feeling, the ambient, the personality of the subject is totally revealed and enhanced. Your work and blogging abilities inspire me to improve in my own and after finally meeting you (at Smug meeting in Costa Mesa ) your ellegant, professional yet amicable personality confirmed my admiration. I believe that's exactly what takes to be such of good photographer: The only way to transmit such of feelings through images is not only by good expousure, white balance, framing, compositon, equipment, etc., but by being an artist with a humble, genuine and charismatic personaity like yours. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and for the incredible amount of help we receive evry day via your blog.   04.23.10 - 3:52pm
Pam Linfitt - Oh, Jasmine!! Do you realize that you do that to many of us?! I always feel I will never be as good as YOU!! Amazing that you feel that way too sometimes, you are obviously only human!! Thank you so much for showing that even the best feel they aren't good enough sometimes... Makes me love you even more!! ;o)  04.23.10 - 3:47pm
Kalli - I can't believe you just admitted that. But I admire you as a person so much more. And it gives me the strength to do the same. I don't have to put on a mask to others that says I am perfect and am the best that I can possibly be. You aren't the best until you realize that you can never be the best.  04.23.10 - 3:46pm
JP - I know you are not looking for compliments but being a 62 year old who only recently rediscovered his love for photography, I would kill to have the talents and eyes you have. I just hope to keep getting better. jp  04.23.10 - 3:41pm
Jodie H - And I just told my husband yesterday, "Some day I want to be the 'Jasmine Star' of our area!". You inspire me!   04.23.10 - 3:33pm
krista lucas - girlfriend, you CONTINUE to inspire me! i can absolutely relate to this...that ugly voice in my head thinking "why am i not like x" or "booking clients like y"...i know it's ridiculous, yet my mind wanders there. (i think it's part of having two X chromosomes...we compare compare compare everything...what we wear, who we're with, what kind of mom we are, etc)...i'm just starting to get to a point where i feel confident that my work is good. i know it's not the best anyone's ever seen, but that's not who i want to be. i want to be the best ME i can be. if that means making tons of money (so i can give it away to people who have none!) then so be it. if it means i have one job a month and this remains 99% a hobby, fine. i will ALWAYS love being a photographer, whatever that looks like. and i will strive to love every image i create, regardless of what so-and-so thinks of me. :) hugs and blessings to you! thanks for being open and honest and rad. (i'm bringing that word back from the 90s. sound good?? haha!)  04.23.10 - 3:29pm
Jane - amazing, amazing advice and helps put things in perspective. I think that just help pull me out of my funk and help but some inspiration back into my career.   04.23.10 - 3:18pm
Valerie Yamile - Well, photographer X must be like a photography god or something for you to envy him/her. I have no problems admitting the dark side of my heart. I envy all your work, and the fact that you have Polo and live in SoCal. Honestly, I'm starting to like you less and less. Just kidding!! I love you!!!  04.23.10 - 3:17pm
kamee june - this was pretty stinkin' inspired! thanks for sharing your truth! ;)  04.23.10 - 2:49pm
Jessica Chavez - Wow! It is exactly what I needed to hear or read, it is exactly how I feel! Thank you Jasmine for sharing your feelings and your work, and for inspiring me to become a better photographer and to really go for my dreams! Hope to meet you at Escalate and thank you personally!!  04.23.10 - 2:44pm
alex - Ah, Jasmine, you're always such an inspiration. I've been fighting with this myself a lot lately, and I think personally I've come to the conclusion that I need to let go of what I'm never going to be, and keep striving towards who I know I will be. I'm glad I'm not the only one fighting with this though. Thanks for being so honest.   04.23.10 - 2:44pm
Danielle Fletcher - Your timing is uncanny Jasmine. IF ONLY you knew!!! Times that inadequate feeling by a hundred and that's where I go, all too frequently. It's SO hard, I'm workin on it, workin on it. Frankly, you've got the support, the skills, the everything to do or be whatever you choose. Don't be HIM. Be amazing.  04.23.10 - 2:43pm
Brittney - girl YOU are amazing... I actually say the exact same things to my husband... but instead of "I can never shoot like him" I replace "him" with "Jasmine" :) ha! Keep doing what you do... you inspire others more than you know!  04.23.10 - 2:34pm
Marie Richards (New Zealand) - Hi from NZ! How wonderful it has been to not only recently discover your website and AWESOME blog, but to read such honesty and rawness from an incredible artist such as yourself. What a relief that you also feel the way I do with those pangs of jealousy and inadequacy in my work, along with feelings of incredible satisfaction and love. Thank you! As much as it's a dreaded feeling, it is also what helps drive all GREAT photographers to keep advancing - and in my opinion I think you're one great photographer. Don't ever doubt yourself for too long. M  04.23.10 - 2:30pm
kristie - So True! It can feel like such a personal battle sometimes... But you're amazing. A total inspiration. Your story, your work... I kind of figure God made us all different, with different tastes and styles for a purpose. So as long as I'm shooting photos I love, I figure I got nothing to worry about.   04.23.10 - 2:23pm
Mia Marisa - You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today. God has a way of encouraging us right when we need it, and this post was exactly what I needed.   04.23.10 - 2:15pm
Peter Geluk - Happens to me on a daily basis... frustrating at first, but inspiring after a while. Keeps me going! Thanks for the meaningful posts.  04.23.10 - 2:14pm
Lafayette Hicks - I wish I i could moon walk; I feel your pain.... j/k Don't trip just Pray. Pray that God grants you the ability to master your own and more importantly that you are able glorify his name through your abilities.  04.23.10 - 2:08pm
Tim Burkhalter - Just finished a wedding and my first thought was..."I didn't nail it like Jasmine would have." So here's looking at you kid...and the hope that someday I will be on par with where you are right now. I also hope, like you, that I'm not satisfied with my work when and if I get there. Thanks for the transparency through the years. You touch a lot of photographers in an inspiring way. Keep up the good work and glory to God.  04.23.10 - 2:05pm
Amy Paulson - I know these feelings. Deep within me. And I wouldn't wish them on anyone. But in this moment, I am ridiculously thankful that you shared them. Not that I want anyone to feel that, "I just can't do that..." feeling, but because you gave me hope for myself. And hope for where I'm headed. And sharing in your raw way gave me hope on a day where I had lost most of mine. Thank you. My heart desperately needed that.  04.23.10 - 1:50pm
anda - such a perfect post.   04.23.10 - 1:48pm
Kay English - Amen sister! You can have hundreds of people tell you they love your work, but if you don't feel it in your heart it doesn't mean anything. You definitely need to appreciate your art and yourself for making wedding photography into something fun! You are the first photographer I've seen do this :)   04.23.10 - 1:45pm
Nicole - I feel this way almost daily. As a self-taught stay-at-home mom trying to break into the biz... surrounded by art school snobbery and people with more time and experience. I must be doing a few things right though... I just booked my first wedding. Thanks for being an inspiration to those of us still in the scary place. We can DO it! F'real!  04.23.10 - 1:40pm
Colorado Wedding Photographer, JasonG - Well said - seems this reminder could be reread daily!  04.23.10 - 1:32pm
Kelli Taylor - I totally know how you feel! I just remind myself that that's what makes us artists. It's good to envy someone else's art! :)  04.23.10 - 1:28pm
Melissa Jean - Such a great post! I look at other's work (including yours) the same way, but as long as you use it in a positive way, to inspire you to be a better you, you can't lose. Besides if you were the best in the world and had nothing left to learn, how boring would that be?   04.23.10 - 1:21pm
Shannon Cunningham - Thanks girl! I needed to hear that! I could spend my whole day looking at other peoples work and think I am not that good I am not that good. And to be honest, sometimes I do. BUT I have to let that go. I am me. I am MY style and I need to embrace it. Obviously people like you and me because people book us, RIGHT?? So, let's love us like other people do! K?? Go!  04.23.10 - 1:19pm
Amber - What a great reminder! I know I feel like you! I see others work and think its so far out of reach. But if you were already there you would be at the peak. I think its a grea feeling to keep going up and getting better each day. You have an awesome husband to believe in you so much!  04.23.10 - 1:07pm
Mikaela - YOU are incredible. I go back and forth between envying your work and appreciating it :) But I most definitely appreciate your honesty. And JD's words! Just in case everyone here hasn't said it enough...your fans - ahem, fanatics - love you for you and YOUR style. Happy Friday xo  04.23.10 - 12:54pm
michelle carrillo - Jasmine, I cannot thank you ENOUGH for opening your heart to all of us. For me, YOU are the photographer whose work is hanging in the window. You just have this *spark* about you. As a photographer and as a person. I know we always want a bit of what we can't have... but it keeps us striving forth to reach it, right? To better ourselves and our art. Thank you for the opportunity for me to stretch out my fingers and brush yours, if only for a day.   04.23.10 - 12:53pm
Chris Myers - So true. But you also need to remember that there are many people saying the same thing about their own work when they see yours!  04.23.10 - 12:51pm
Sarah Larsen - I thought only us beginner crappy photographers thought that! Cause I look at yours and say the same things you said to yourself......  04.23.10 - 12:51pm
Sara Munneke - I love you! Thanks for your awesome words!  04.23.10 - 12:50pm
Regina White - I just had dinner with a few great photographers last night and this came up. I think we all feel the same way but never talk about it. We always think everyone is just so comfortable in their own skin that they don't worry about themselves like that. But after last night and reading your blog today it gives me a sense of relief that I am not the only one thinking like this. But I too have to appreciate my work. Someone else does or I wouldn't have great clients. Girl I can see you feeling this way though but don't I will try not too as well. Though we are humans and have feelings and emotions it's hard not too but we have to realize we will only grow more if we take time to appreciate our work. Girl your the bomb-ee! =) Everyone wants to be like you and you want to be like someone else. But just be ourselves right?   04.23.10 - 12:49pm
Kristi Schneider - Here is a quote a co-worker at my day-job posted on our work blog. Hope it helps. I KNOW how you feel! But you just have to slap that devil off your shoulder, he is at ear level and he's getting WAY to much credit. Swat him to the ground, then mash him, I say! Enjoy the quote, "Never Mind What Other's Do; Do Better Than Yourself, Beat Your Own Record From Day To Day & You Are A Success."- William J.H. Boetcker.  04.23.10 - 12:49pm
Karen Taggart - Such good advice (as usual!) I really need to be reminded of this. I have a lot of self-doubt about my abilities. Actually...if YOU do too that makes me feel it about myself even more! Hee hee I know I will improve a little each day if I work at it. Such is life!   04.23.10 - 12:49pm
Karen Taggart - Such good advice (as usual!) I really need to be reminded of this. I have a lot of self-doubt about my abilities. Actually...if YOU do too that makes me feel it about myself even more! Hee hee I know I will improve a little each day if I work at it. Such is life!   04.23.10 - 12:48pm
Stephanie Stewart - Jasmine, reading this brightened my day! I struggle with the same thing, along with self-doubt, and questioning myself and if what I'm doing is going to work...but when I imagine my life without photography, it's not pretty, so I know that what I'm doing is right. I have to keep reminding myself that I'm constantly learning and growing and cannot compare my work to those who have been shooting longer than I have. I love JD's quote, he is so right! Keep this awesomeness comin'!!! And never forget that YOU rock, YOU inspire, YOU are soo talented! :)  04.23.10 - 12:42pm
amanda thiessen - it boggles my mind that YOU would question your work..because your work is nothing short of incredible. for reals. you are amazing and sometimes i do find myself feeling down and kinda like...man, why can't I be that good?! but i too need to appreciate everyone else's talents..as well as my own. thank you for being so transparent to the world. <3  04.23.10 - 12:41pm
s h e r r y - TRUUUUFFFF, sista. (What you taught us at Image Quest in Vancouver, haha).  04.23.10 - 12:39pm
Patience Z - You are amazing... And your words ring true for so many of us, constantly growing, in ourselves! Thank you for this blog posting. I am going to save it for the days I am down only self, so I can read it and remember "I am me, I am the best I can be, so I will continue to be me"  04.23.10 - 12:39pm
Angel Canary - You are right, everyone has things they are better at than others. So what, right? I am pretty sure that you are not the giving up type, and doesn't everyone have to learn? I wish I could write the way you do, and I wish I could pose my clients the way you do...and heck I really wish I had that tiny waist you do. You have helped tons of photographers, including myself, spread their wings. Without your blog, I wouldn't have my website, a blog or a facebook page and I sure wouldn't share my personal life online on my site. Be proud of that, and girl, you got skills. ;) xoxox {ac}  04.23.10 - 12:39pm
teaworthy - I completely get this and appreciate your honesty. It can be paralyzing at times, but ultimately, no one needs to see your work as compared to anyone elses, they just need to see you. I've written about this too, here: http://teaworthy.com/fingerprints/  04.23.10 - 12:38pm
September Roberts - Jasmine thank you for your words of encouragement and wisdom. I believe that everyone has something they inspire to be. As we grow, we all see a little something to strive for. So be it, if we are motivated by what someone else captures, says, does, or portrays. You can be the best you can be. Just realize there is always someone who looks up to you and what you do. Love your work, style, honesty, and faithfulness. Keep up your AWESOME work!!!!  04.23.10 - 12:38pm
Christa - My sentiments exactly....except my jealousy is you. I'll never be as good as Jasmine Star..... I queitly cry as I read this, its been a rough week and as especially hard day. And all I can say to you and JD is a quiet thank you :)  04.23.10 - 12:37pm
Lisa - This is how I feel about YOU but you've always stressed to be the best you can be and that's what I'm trying to do. Remember that you are fabulous and so many people look to you the same way you look to photographer X.  04.23.10 - 12:36pm
LT - Don't ever doubt yourself--because you are THEEE BOMB J*!!!! Case closed. :-)  04.23.10 - 12:34pm
Lora Ayers - J*, thanks for sharing. You don't know what it means to know that you have some of the same feelings that I do. It seems no matter what others say about my work, I just don't "see" it, but I have no problem "seeing" how great everyone elses work is. I taught myself photography too, and I've come along way. I have to make myself appreciate my work, and I think it's so important to do that!! :) cheers! happy weekend! ~Lora  04.23.10 - 12:34pm
angel pope - So, you say so much better than me what is going through my brain. Another reason why I love you ;) And JD is seriously wise beyond his years!!!  04.23.10 - 12:31pm
Melissa Papaj Photography - I couldn't agree more with this post because everyday I feel like I suck and always envy the success of others in the industry. I never feel like I am good enough. I know, everyone says not to do it, but it is so hard not to. Jasmine you are amazing and I genuinely hope you know that :)   04.23.10 - 12:30pm
amy - So true, Jasmine. And something that I think every photographer struggles with. We are our biggest critics. But know this... you are amazing. You learn from experience. Trial and error. And with each passing day and each shot you grow. :)  04.23.10 - 12:29pm
k - if it's any consolation, the 1st time I found your site, I couldn't stand to look at the pictures. A few weeks later, I could look at them but I got rid of the bookmark. A couple weeks later I googled you back and bookmarked. A few weeks later, I fanned you on Facebook. In the meantime, I've gotten better because I studied your shots. I've memorized things you've said, did more research with books, combed the internet for more help, then went back to your pictures. My first photo shoot last week ended up being an engagement shoot! Thank you SO very much for being there for me to study. I had poses ready in my head so I didn't have to totally freak out, hyperventilate and pass out in the dirt.   04.23.10 - 12:29pm
Melissa Pearce - Thanks for your transparency! I just blogged about comparing because I struggle with it not only relating to photography but to LIFE. And I think we all do. And way to see the truth. And finally, I was surprised to see you struggle! (Why? Well, because I think you are so talented!)   04.23.10 - 12:29pm
James - Hey Jasmine, that's an awesome post. My friend and I were just having this conversation not even 5 minutes ago. I'm a musician, and when I play shows, I'm always worried about people in the crowd and if they think I'll be good or not. Or what if they can sing/play better than me. But you know what? At the end of the day, there is always someone more advanced in your field. BUT, no matter how advanced they might be, if they're at my show, then that means they're watching me. So the best I can do is give them my best. Same with you, no matter how good you might think Photographer X is, when clients book you, they're booking you because you're the best to them not Photographer X. Tell JD I said what's up!   04.23.10 - 12:28pm
ashley Turner - Your honesty is so refreshing. Thanks Jasmine.   04.23.10 - 12:28pm
Jessica Willis - welcome to my life looking at your blog :) but seriously, JD's super right and there are so many things you do so well! :) celebrate that and use it as motivation! :)   04.23.10 - 12:27pm
Mindy Bean - Jasmine what are you saying everyday I wish I could capture moments like you do. You are so talented! Thank you for the inspirational words.   04.23.10 - 12:26pm
Jean Molodetz - Interesting post. I appreciate YOUR work, your philosophy, your honesty and your openness. It inspires me.   04.23.10 - 12:26pm
Kari - Girl - you are Fab!! I fight with this daily too, but then I realize that I am as good as X but, in a different way. JD is way wise! love his quote - may have to steal it and post it above my desk. Thanks for all you do to inspire us!  04.23.10 - 12:26pm
Joyce D. - If I may comment, you can develop your own style from artists you admire, but the ability to connect with people is a gift that cannot be imitated or reproduced. It's a gift you clearly possess. Freal...   04.23.10 - 12:26pm
Marissa Rodriguez - Oh so you know jealousy too!? Her and I? Pssssh. We go way back. She visits me All. The. Time. Oh and her sister, self doubt!? I'm so close to her it's not even funny! It's so good to know I'm not the only one they harass. Seriously, Jasmine, thank your for this :)   04.23.10 - 12:25pm
Christie - The grass is always greener on the other side... at least that's what I used to think all the time..and on occasion still do. I just have to step back, have a mini-argument in my head with myself (something I do several times a day...I'm slightly mental) and end up with the conclusion...I am a good photographer. Not the best, not the worst, not the most interesting, not the most boring...but I'm a good photographer. Easier typed than believed...it's a never-ending cycle.   04.23.10 - 12:21pm
Sarah Brewbaker - You rock! Embrace your style girl! :)  04.23.10 - 12:20pm
Tammynize - Jasmine! This blog was awesome! I've been reading your blogs for a while and this one really hit me close to home. I experience that all the time!Thanks so much!  04.23.10 - 12:19pm
Lori Boynton - Awesome post. I struggle with this too. Especially being new. But what I have found is that the more I try to force something that isn't "me" the worse my work looks. When I let go of trying to be something I'm not and shoot what feels right, well that is when I see something staring back at me that I am actually proud of:) Thank you for being so honest and real.   04.23.10 - 12:19pm
Rebecca - I was feeling this EXACT way last night. Sometimes it's hard to recognize and accept that they way I see the world and the people in it is important and valuable too. *hugs*  04.23.10 - 12:19pm
Ryan B - I understand this struggle, completely; and not just in photography. I downplay the merits of wedding photography compared to other disciplines. I beat myself up for pursing payment over the pursuit of art. I look at raw talent in others as a threat instead of seeing it as an inspiration. I look at full sets of my work and see mediocre fodder and force a smile when clients say they love it. With that said, I know this is a dark side of my fallen-human nature. This knowledge gives me freedom. Im able to put this side of me away and enjoy my craft and my art. The family joke (originally started by my dad, in reference to his guitar playing) is that, All I lack is talent, but I make up for it in persistence and good looks. So, I know there will always be more talented people out there, but they cant match my persistence or my good looks, for that matter :)   04.23.10 - 12:18pm
Jeremiah Daniel Spray - Your work is amazing, someone once said that there are two kinds of geniuses, the kind that make you think "I could never be that good" and the kind that inspire you to try harder in your own work. Your the latter in my world.   04.23.10 - 12:18pm
Julie W. - Thank you so much for this post...you don't even know how much it means to me. I hate feeling insecure all the time about my work. Thank you, thank you, thank you!  04.23.10 - 12:17pm
Kristin - I think it's easy to overlook the things that each of us are really good at, because it's something that comes naturally and doesn't feel difficult, even if it's really special. The opposite is true of things we want to improve on - especially when you see someone to whom that comes naturally. Don't forget that you have an arsenal of things that are making other people jealous on a daily basis and inspiring them to learn something new also.  04.23.10 - 12:14pm
Sussex Portrait Photographer - This is a deadly trap that I've fallen into myself several times. I gave up learning guitar because I would never be as good as Carlos Santana or George Benson. What I didn't realise back then was that both of those top level players were at one stage nowhere near as good as they would later become. What if they had given up too?   04.23.10 - 12:14pm
Ashley - Dude, JD needs to share some of his pearls of wisdom with me next time we see him! You better watch out Jasmine- he might write a book! (:  04.23.10 - 12:14pm
Julie - Jasmine you're amazing and inspiring to me! I just had lunch for the first time with a fellow South Florida photographer and we mentioned your name a gazillion times! We both appreciate your work and are inspired by your style. Just know there's always someone out there who feels the same exact way you do. Keep your head held high. You're definitely an influential person in this industry. =)  04.23.10 - 12:12pm
Jill - JD is a genious. ;)  04.23.10 - 12:11pm
Elaine - Awww...such a great post.   04.23.10 - 12:11pm
shannon h. - i could not love this any more. something that i, and prob everyone, struggles with. yet, i don't think it's necessarily a bad struggle. if you loved your work and were always satisfied with it, how would you grow. how would you strive to better yourself. there is always going to be someone better than you, there is always going to be someone worse than you. it's a fun game of life we play!!  04.23.10 - 12:11pm
Denise - Who knew? Good to know we are all human and feel the same thing as we are just trying to do our thing.  04.23.10 - 12:11pm
Jenny Sun - My husband told me something very similar when I was crying with self doubt not too long ago. Along with that, he also added this truth: its a wonderful thing to feel uncomfortable and squeamish where you are standing, because it means you desire to get better. Be Better. The discomfort forces us to move, and stretch further than we thought we could. Nobody grows and gets anywhere in complacent shoes :) So its wonderful to know you are feeling the way you do...because with the fiery attitude you have I know you will only let that passion take you on new journeys with your pictures :) Remember, you are DETERMINED :) love you!! xox  04.23.10 - 12:10pm
Stephanie Reeder - GIRL!! I don't know how many times I have said that to myself, husband, and friends about you...You truly are an inspiration to not only myself by thousands of other photographers. Your work is amazing and what you do for other people is amazing. There is truth in what JD said...love your work, because I love your style, images, and work!! So with that said, please don't change who you are and be someone your not...you are amazing just the way you are! Happy Friday Girly!! :)  04.23.10 - 12:09pm
Joyce D.Z. - The world has a vast space for each and everyone of us to shine! Don't even worry about what others can do better as you will get lost if you start comparing yourself to them -- plus we already know that you are a star, so shine using all the God-given talents that you have. Because that's what makes you, you. :)  04.23.10 - 12:08pm
Mary Helen Bobo/ Sweet Water Images - Are we Soul Mates?   04.23.10 - 12:08pm
Otto Rascon - All I can say to JD is "WORD UP BRO!" Thanks for sharing. It proves that we all struggle with the same issues. Thank you!  04.23.10 - 12:07pm
Kasi - When I started on my path through photography in Oct of last year, I felt the same pain. I was jealous. Jealous of everyone who had a game plan, a blog, a website (ahem still working on mine!), who had a portfolio.. eventually as I went through the process, I saw myself growing and learning.. and now I just look at those photogs who inspire me (LIKE YOU Miss J*) and admire and learn! I've found through this newfound passion that I have my own individual voice.. and I love it :)  04.23.10 - 12:06pm
Missy Dale - I am a strong believer that the people who are never satisfied, never happy with their own work are amongst the most talented at what they do. The ones that look at what they shoot and always feel like they could have done better or that it wasn't as good as it could be if someone else took it....you feeling that way about your own work is what is making you a great photographer that others look up to.  04.23.10 - 12:06pm
Jenna - Wow. Seriously best post ever. I'm so sick of comparing myself to others and always feeling inadequate/worthless/lame. Thank you for reminding me to stop worrying about everyone else and just appreciate me.  04.23.10 - 12:05pm
Ginger Murray - As Dane Sanders says: we have all been the one to look at blogs late into the night and think, "I suck, I suck, I suck." (We all do it!) But no one could be better at being you, than you. He also says he(all of us) "would suck at being Jasmine Star." Grass is always greener, right?? Learn to love your side of the grass. No one else in this world can be in your shoes. ;)  04.23.10 - 12:05pm
Bentley B. - Funny thing is this is what I felt myself when I first discovered your website and your work. Since then, I've used your work as inspiration to get better with my photography and it has helped! :D  04.23.10 - 12:04pm
Alejandra - Jasmine -- I hope you truly understand the way you impact people. To remind us that we are HUMAN, and that even some of the best in the industry (YOU), feel the way we do. No matter how good we are, we will always compare ourselves and not feel good enough. But guess what? THAT is why you are SO successful Jas. Because you don't settle. You do n-o-t. settle. You will always reach for more, your passion is hungry and it will NEVER betray you! You can't teach people that hunger. Thank you so much for uplifting us Jasmine. You amaze me every time!  04.23.10 - 12:04pm
Briana - I'm in the throes of beginning my business and I know exactly how you feel. I experience constant self-doubt and confidence drains when comparing my work to others, but then I remind myself of something Becker said in a vlog: "We all start somewhere". If it helps, I look at your work and think all the same things you mentioned in your blog! lol It's comforting to know that even the rockstars have their jealousies sometimes.  04.23.10 - 12:04pm
Krissy - Great points Jasmine... We all have to be us and quite comparing ourselves to each other.  04.23.10 - 12:03pm
Allison - Well put Jasmine. I'm guilty of the same. Why do we feel the need to be the best? I've decided I'm getting rid of the head trash. That's what I call it. It's the hardest!!! Just think people look at your work like that everyday.  04.23.10 - 12:03pm
kim james - I feel the same way at times. Although I view jealousy as a map to what I want for myself. It's an idication I must work smarter and harder and more creative. I shoot all sorts of different tests just to see if I can. I wish I had Annie's eye and resources and at times looking at your imagery I have thought dang this girl gets it! I wish I had at her age and wish I did now. It's all relative I suppose. I feel I really suck when I look at the photographers from Jedroot. Your work words way are an inspiration.   04.23.10 - 12:03pm
Brooke - You do amazing work and I love reading your blog too - I appreciate your honesty. JD was so right and his words encourage me today too. Keep up the good work!! :)  04.23.10 - 12:03pm
Sarah Winston - Jasmine, Are you kidding me!!! You envy someone else????? You have beautiful photographs!!! I envy you and this piece that you wrote made my day, as photographers I think we all struggle with jealousy and wanting to be as good as someone else. But this makes us strive to be better and that is why competition is a great thing. It sparks something inside of us that makes us want to study the craft more by reading books, going to workshops and connecting with other photographers for advice. Do you know how many people were stoked to get into your class at WPPI and how many people attend your workshops???!!! You are AMAZING and inspire me on a daily basis, keep on doing what you are doing! You don't realize just how many people you are helping!  04.23.10 - 12:03pm
Julie Hartman - It's funny that you posted this today, because I made the comment on your blog yesterday about being as good as you one day. Thank you Jasmine for inspiring ME to get better!  04.23.10 - 12:02pm
mariana herrera mosli - Awesome post, I am sure many (if not all) of us have felt this at some point in our creative lives. I agree with JD and that is what keeps me going, that yearning for inspiration, for finding myself in this HUGE world! We are such a small part of such an AWESOME bigger picture! :) BTW, Looooooooove the image you chose for this post! Absolutely perfect! Blessings & Love, Mariana | Kismis Ink Photography  04.23.10 - 12:02pm
Paige Butcher - Jasmine, I think you've spoken straight to the heart of an insecurity that all artists have. I think that every photographer, even the very "best" have a jealous, restless tug that appears whenever they are feeling frustrated with their own work. But like you've said so many times, see the world the way YOU see it. No body else can be you.   04.23.10 - 12:02pm
Bianca - Thank you so much for this blog entry! I think it is amazing how God works. I have actually had these same thoughts and feelings running through me just this week. You are an encouragement and I thank you for your insite:) BTW your work is amazing..I love looking at what's new.  04.23.10 - 12:01pm
Michael Domingo - I've had those thoughts of jealousy all my life, and I'm reminded of it every month when NatGeo hits my mailbox, that I should just trash the cameras and stab my eyes out. Maybe that's too dramatic, but those thoughts cross my mind when I see such awesome work in there. But then, I'm reminded that it's a matter of perspective, when someone sees my work and compliments my "eye" and I think, there's hope for me yet. Even then, I'm not sure I have the eye with the quotes just yet, but feedback and critiques will have me working at it for the rest of my life. At least I'm comforted with the thought that as long as I'm not totally happy with what I shoot, it means I will continue to strive for improvement.   04.23.10 - 12:01pm
Rita Quinn - I can't tell you how heartwarming it is to hear YOU saying this... because you're my "photographer X" who's work inspires me to keep pushing myself. It's like someone told me, we're all second graders. (Hang on, I have a point) We all have first graders who look up to us and we all have 3rd graders we look up to. Thanks for keeping it real, as always, and being my 3rd grader. :) xoxo  04.23.10 - 12:01pm
Karin - How do you manage to verbalize my issues? I cannot believe you would ever feel the same feelings I do or have insecurities like me. I'm thankful that I'm not alone and floored that someone I admire SO much sometimes feels that way too! Thanks for sharing this.   04.23.10 - 12:01pm
Alexandra - Beautiful, honest post. Love it.   04.23.10 - 12:00pm
Larry Reeves - So true, i love it! JD is a smart, level-headed guy.   04.23.10 - 12:00pm
Sarah M. - The real question is...how does photographer x following their passion free you to become a more authentic version of who God made you? "The glory of God is man fully alive." ~Sara Groves. *smiles*   04.23.10 - 11:59am
Rose - :)  04.23.10 - 11:59am
Holls - You ARE amazing. I love and admire your complete public honesty. I think at one point or another every photographer has that envy and self doubt. I bet even PhotographerX did too. I too struggle with this from time to time. (You being one of my "I will never be as good as her")I have learned to embrace it though. Ususally I use that feeling as my motivation to try new things and to look at things from a different perspective and then I end up with some of my all time favorite shots ever. That is one thing I truly love about photography. You never stop learning and it never stops evolving.   04.23.10 - 11:59am
fffabulous - "Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you." -Dr. Seuss You're doing a pretty damn good job at being the fffabulous YOU!!  04.23.10 - 11:59am
kristen ~ k.holly - Beautifully said! I think we all feel those feelings creeping into our soul from time to time. Also, it's nice to hear you say this. I think there are so many people who feel that way about YOU. But we are ALL amazing, all in our own ways. Thank you for the reminder! Have a beautiful weekend :)  04.23.10 - 11:59am
Diandra - I needed that. Thank you. And just so you know... I like yours the best :)  04.23.10 - 11:58am
Megan (Best of Fates) - Such a beautiful philosophy - and you should know how amazing your photography is, and what an inspiration *you* are to other people.  04.23.10 - 11:58am
carrie - wow. I guess we all struggle with this. amazing truth. I struggle with this so much. It can be debilitating.  04.23.10 - 11:58am
Meagan - Thank you. I really needed this today. I do this SO often its scary & all I do is depress myself instead of remembering how far I've come & how far I can still go. Thank You.   04.23.10 - 11:57am
Steph - It's hard though sometimes isn't it? I'm glad JD was there to remind you of that important truth and that you're passing it on to all of us out here. Someone other than you needed to hear this today :)  04.23.10 - 11:57am
tonya - couldn't agree more...I am completely taken back knowing someone I admire so much can feel inadequacy in a talent they have been so abundantly blessed. I guess even you are human! lol...Jas...come on now girl...you are FABULOUS!  04.23.10 - 11:57am
Bre Thurston - We definitely all feel this way and never forget that all of us blog-stalkers feel the exact same way about YOU :) Happy Friday!   04.23.10 - 11:56am
Kacie Jean - I never usually comment, but I just had to this time since it looks like I might get to be the first one :) This is so true! I often find myself comparing myself to others and feeling like I'll never be as good as them. Then I remember that I have my own style and am unique in my own way and I need to appreciate that and not strive to be like anyone else!  04.23.10 - 11:56am
Ann-Marie - Oh Jasmine! It is so refreshing to hear that you struggle with those insecurity demons as well. I find myself constantly dreaming of being in your shoes. Everyone has their envy-inducing competitors, but I always try to remember they should be my heros. Don't let the Devil get you down. God's only building you up. You are a rock star in my eyes.  04.23.10 - 11:56am
aileen secord - Inspirational. Thank you. We're all self-deprecating, but if we can take a step back and be appreciative of what we've accomplished... we can take that extra step further.  04.23.10 - 11:56am
Candice {The Beautiful Mess} - great advice J.D. :)  04.23.10 - 11:56am
Jennifer Bates - Can't tell you how many times I've thought that about another well-deserved artist, and JD's reminder echo's my own amazing hubbie's. We just need that reminder now and again! Beautifully spoken.  04.23.10 - 11:56am
Brandy Anderson - I think we ALL feel this way sometimes, and I always admire the people who admit it. :)  04.23.10 - 11:56am
Nichole H. - Just remember that the way you feel about "him", many of us feel about you :)  04.23.10 - 11:55am
Ryan Welch - Well said. Thanks for your honesty. Those are words to remember each day as we move through life as creatives.   04.23.10 - 11:55am
AndreaV - Thank you Jasmine. I needed to hear this today. God must be talking to me. :)  04.23.10 - 11:55am
Lawrence Chan - Truff  04.23.10 - 11:55am
Jen Madigan Photography - This is why I love your blog so much, you always put yourself out there and show the vulnerable, imperfect side that all of us humans have. I can't imagine anyone making you jealous of their talent, as I think you're an amazing photographer with an incredible gift, but as we're all our own worst critic it shouldn't surprise me that you too have your moments of insecurity. I love what your husband told you, I think many people can benefit from that advice (myself included!!).  04.23.10 - 11:55am
angela - you are a talented wonderful photographer and you are the the x photographer for many of us....embrace yourself because you are wonderful  04.23.10 - 11:55am
Keith Powell - Wow, Jasmine. That really hit home with me. I find myself doing that all the time. It's human nature. DJ is right. He is so wise.  04.23.10 - 11:55am
Stephanie - Very well put...I think as photographers, artists, and HUMANS, we all struggle with this more often than we would like to admit. Such good advice from JD!  04.23.10 - 11:55am
tracy - that's funny, because most people look at your work and feel the same way about you. 'I can't be as good as her'. JD is correct, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. It what inspires us to be better, to do better, to mature and grow.   04.23.10 - 11:54am
feuza - so good you mention this cause that means we are not a lone and I guess that means that feeling of sometimes thinking I suck does not go away and perhaps it must not because in this way we push our selves, hate the jealousy game, catch myself feeling that sometimes and kick it to the curb  04.23.10 - 11:54am
Brit - I think that's true for any of us in the wedding industry. We have to remind ourselves that we are our own competition, and it is in our best interested to better ourselves. To not worry about X or Y, because they work differently. Learn to appreciate yourself. Great post, J!  04.23.10 - 11:54am
Christopher Elston - OK... I'm not jealous of your work anymore.... I appreciate it! :)  04.23.10 - 11:53am
Stephanie - That is powerful. Reminds me of 1 Pet. 2:1 - "Put away all... envy" and remember all the ways God has blessed you. Thank you for that reminder today!  04.23.10 - 11:53am
Kayla - Thank you SO much for this post!! I feel this all of the time and this is such a great reminder. You rock Jasmine.  04.23.10 - 11:53am
KELLI TRONTELL - SO GOOD! SO TRUE! B E L I E V E it! xoxo  04.23.10 - 11:53am
Kate - thanks jasmine! it is nice to hear from someone whose photography i have looked at in the same way and thought the same to myself. while i am proud of myself and what i am doing, know that others look to you with the same awe and amazement that you found in someone else!   04.23.10 - 11:53am
Lauren - Jasmine, it feels so great to hear you say this. I, for one, have these thoughts here and there and the truth is it can completely consume you. I love what JD said, it reminds me so much of my boyfriend, Nate. It's so nice to have someone to center you. If it helps at all, I look at your stuff everyday and you inspire me in so many ways. So really, you're my photographer X! Keep up the great work!  04.23.10 - 11:52am
Rachel Clare - Amen.  04.23.10 - 11:52am
Jason - Great post Jasmine! I'm sure we all go through this feeling at some point or another.  04.23.10 - 11:52am
Life with Kaishon - Such a great reminder. Thank you. Every blogger I know wants to be as good as you are. You are like the epitome of perfection.  04.23.10 - 11:52am
Sarah - People look at your work and ask the same thing of themselves, if they have it in them to produce images like J* does. Great post, and great reminder!  04.23.10 - 11:52am
Candy Howard - That JD is one smart cookie. Just Photographer X is fabulous doesn't make you less fabulous. And, lady, you are fabulous.  04.23.10 - 11:51am
Miranda - And the funny thing is, there are so many of us I'm sure that look at your work and think the same. It's an ugly side to human nature, I think to compare oneself with someone else. I felt this way after viewing the Lorimer blog just recently. It's refreshing to hear someone so talented say something so true and inspiring like this. Thank you. :) It helps, for what it's worth.  04.23.10 - 11:51am
Cathy Empey - Truff right there. Amen sista!   04.23.10 - 11:51am
Marla - Lovely, J*.   04.23.10 - 11:51am
Tisha Johnson - VERY well said, Jasmine....I struggle with this everyday! and please dont fret too much cause you are a rockstar! and one of my biggest inspirations!! XO  04.23.10 - 11:51am
Damaris Mia - it's people like you who continue to uplift me when I feel like giving up. It's people like you who make me realize that there really are good people out there. THANK YOU, Jasmine. Thank you for putting yourself out there and showing us the important things in life.. like believing in ourselves and not giving up. Give JD a pat on the back because what he said is the truth! or.. troof? ;)  04.23.10 - 11:50am
Stefani - I was looking for some motivation today and i found it reading that quote! Thanks! :] You are GREAT!  04.23.10 - 11:50am
Cami - I have always been a lurker here and am a huge fan of yours (you are the one that inspires me to get better!)...but today I feel the need to tell you thanks for your post. You should know that what 'he' does to inspire you...you do for so many of us. Thanks for all you do - and for being real. F'real.  04.23.10 - 11:50am
Becky Butterworth - Wow, I so needed to hear that too - Thanks JD!. Really understand what you mean Jasmine.   04.23.10 - 11:50am
Sacha - Here here - simple abundance - if you don't have it, great book. xx  04.23.10 - 11:50am
Erin McFarland - Amen! Well said. And coming from you, very encouraging :)  04.23.10 - 11:50am
pam - I can so relate. And...being 50 I struggle with the feeling that being at this point of pursuit decades older than most of the up and coming or established photographers..is ridiculous. What am I doing? Thinking? But...I love this. I'm not dead yet LOL.  04.23.10 - 11:50am
Alison - A million people will tell you how wonderful you are at what you do, but when you have doubts about those abilities, none of those voices get through, except for the ones who love you the most. I struggle with this constantly and in all honesty, it is good to hear I am not alone in that self doubt. I hate it but in part it is what pushes me and drives me to do more and do better and do what is in my heart, not what is most popular right now. Thank you for being yourself and sharing this!  04.23.10 - 11:48am
Kim - As silly as it sounds... It is nice to know that even you get a little jealous. Thank you for posting this.   04.23.10 - 11:48am
Amber - As a photographer, I have two comments. 1. I totally understand, I too have so much to learn and feel intimidated almost by others in this industry that are so much better. 2. I think sharing this about you is really amazing of you and you should feel proud. Your work is truly wonderful, I do not comment much but I am faithful to your website. I hope one day to attend one of your workshops. Thanks for always sharing your inspiration.  04.23.10 - 11:47am
amie Beasley - LOVE it!! This has been that week where I am learning from my mistakes but then wondering why I even bother. There 9 million photographers out there, why would someone pick me? So, thank YOU!!! I needed that one. :)  04.23.10 - 11:47am
Crystal - Hi Jasmine, I read your blog a lot, but this is the first time I've commented because this touches a cord in my heart. I want to encourage you friend. The conclusion you've come to is right on. You have a unique point of view as an artist that is yours, no one elses. People come to you because they like you. Your style. Your product. Your artistic vision. I think it's good to let the other artists out there sharpen us like iron sharpens iron, but be confident in who God made you to be. (= Cheers friend!   04.23.10 - 11:47am
Dawn McCarthy - So true. Just keep in mind that many people see you as "photographer X." Be proud and remain inspired.   04.23.10 - 11:47am
Kaila Harkins - To say I needed to read this today would be a HUGE understatement! Thanks!  04.23.10 - 11:47am
Cherisse - JD is a smart man! Keep him Jasmine!! I'll never be like you, you inspire me to be the best I can, and you make me want to do more. I like me, I'm ok with me, but why can't I be like you?? LOL   04.23.10 - 11:47am
Cynthia - I'm sure there are photographers out there who see you as their X! Their "who i'd like to shoot like" person! Okay... I admit it, it's me! :) hehe Your photos are stunning... period!! :) Girrrl you've got some mad talent! ;)  04.23.10 - 11:47am
Lyndsey Yeomans - Thank you thank you thank you...I'm sitting in that same place this week - and to hear someone I revere as 'photographer X' be as vulnerable as plain old me, priceless.   04.23.10 - 11:46am
Judy - Wow. I know that feeling so well... I so many times admire the work of other photog's (including yours) and think "I could never do that"... and I don't know what others see in my work, because I'm not them.... Did that even make sense? lol Anyway, great reminder... Thank God we each have a different eye, and a different style!!!  04.23.10 - 11:46am
Debbie Ellis - as a newbie, this happens to me often...I was hoping it would fade with more experience but I guess not? thank you for sharing so we can all see that we all are human and face the same feelings!   04.23.10 - 11:45am
Patty Luna - Your Photography inspires me..   04.23.10 - 11:45am
Beth Frazier - I feel the same about you. I look to you and your work for inspiration, so please know that you make others feel the way Photographer X made you feel.....it's a good thing!  04.23.10 - 11:45am
pinky - you're so awesome  04.23.10 - 11:44am
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