06.10.10 Personal

Cayman Island Emails

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ometimes I stop myself. From dreaming. Because dreaming and hoping sets me up for accountability, which then leads to the chance of failure. And failure scares me to a point where I lay in bed at night and thoughts roll around, spelling words in a dark room in pretty font. And then JD reaches out in the darkness and rubs my back until the font disappears.

Today my best friend emailed me and let me know she's accomplishing one of her dreams. Something she only wished for, but never thought would happen. My heart lurched from my chest because that's what life's about. Dreaming and hoping...out loud.

My friend reminded me to embrace failure and disappointment because somewhere in the mire, dreams take flight and hopes become a reality.


Whatever your dream may be, don't let the fear of failure stand in your way. And I'm saying this to myself more than anyone else.
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Tracy - Thank you for always being an inspiration!   09.08.10 - 10:33am
Apple - thanks jasmine! i can imagine you're already living out a lot of our:other people's dreams!:) you're such an inspiration!<3  06.19.10 - 10:09am
Heather Corporan - I needed to hear these words today. . . thank you!  06.16.10 - 8:31am
Jan - Thanks for sharing this Jasmine.  06.15.10 - 11:12pm
Jodie C - Thank you! I needed to hear this again! and again, and again. My fear of failure certainly wins most days. It's such a great reminder not to let it keep me from trying, keep pushing ahead. Thanks so much!  06.15.10 - 9:17am
Liz - THANK YOU! All i can say is thank you....this post...simple and so amazing  06.14.10 - 3:36pm
Stephanie Stewart - I absolutely love what your bff told you, it's soooo true! I need to write that and tape it to my computer so that I see it all the time!!!  06.14.10 - 1:37pm
Brittani - =D gotta love those best friends. Always saying what needs to be said. When it needs to be said. yess. <3  06.14.10 - 8:09am
life with kaishon - I am happy that your best friends dreams are coming true.   06.12.10 - 5:41pm
LibraryGirl62 - I found this today and it must be for you too! "Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us. It is not just in some; it is in everyone. And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Read by Nelson Mandela, written by Marianne Williamson  06.12.10 - 9:42am
Alexandra - Thanks for this post, very inspirational.  06.12.10 - 1:16am
Bliss - This post above all the others helps me out so much!!! I've had people tell me I can't do this, I can't be what I wish and hope to be. Your words show me that no matter what anyone else says, I can yearn to be a good photographer. I can work hard at it and even if I fail... at least I tried. And THAT I can always pass on to my son. :)  06.11.10 - 9:32pm
Truc - Thanks for this post, Jasmine. Really needed to hear this today.  06.11.10 - 7:05pm
Linda Sherrill - A great inspirational reminder for all of us!  06.11.10 - 5:46pm
Amanda Key - I understand where you are coming from. This year I was nominated for Teacher of the Year. I did not want to write/turn in the essay, because I was scared on not being picked. That I would put myself out there (to want to be picked) and then I would be turned away. I sucked it up and wrote my essay, and I was the chosen "teacher of the year." But that was scary!  06.11.10 - 3:53pm
clarissa - thank you for that - EXACTLY what i needed to hear/read today!  06.11.10 - 2:06pm
victoria - thank you! how appropriate is this post for me too...i have a big interview on monday and i'm so scared to fail but sooooooo excited for this new adventure. i'm trying my best to let the latter take lead.   06.11.10 - 11:37am
Chelsea McGowan - I SO needed this today! Today, we finalized our plan for a full rebranding, and a massive launch campaign. It is SO scary to me that we have this crazy amount of work in front of us the next 6 months, but it's going to be worth it. And YOU just reminded me not to be afraid! Enjoy your island, Jas.   06.11.10 - 9:52am
angel pope - You get it from your dad, I'm sure. When you speak (write) it is as if you are speaking to me. Like when you are sitting and church and are certain that someone must have called the preacherman (or woman) and told them all about your story, including the specifics. Like you KNOW that preacher is talking about you. Yeah, that's how you make me feel sometimes when I read your blog. :-) It's a good thing. Thanks.  06.11.10 - 8:32am
Denise - :) Jasmine.... I can't express how far you reach into my soul and touch it! thank you.  06.11.10 - 12:11am
Denise Saucedo - I let it get in the way all too much. I imagine myself without the fear of failure and I am on top of the world. Doing what I love most. But in reality I'm still in the same spot I was yesterday... only dreaming. I must also embrace failure and catch that dream and make it a reality. I often wonder what your fears are. Because honestly you are amazing! If only you knew how you keep us going and how you give us hope, you would be able to conquer the world. Much love girl!!!  06.10.10 - 11:49pm
Kira Lauren - ...because it's not about how many times you fall, it's about how many times you get back up, yes? =) hugs to you jasmine!   06.10.10 - 11:22pm
Vasti - if succeeding has an opposite, it is bound to face you once in a while... but, that makes the victory so sweet, it enhances its flavor.   06.10.10 - 10:01pm
Sissel - such an excellent reminder since I wrestle with this dragon daily, it slithers in and takes hold without me noticing until suddenly I am completely engulfed. i have to consciously remind myself NOT to be afraid. thank you.  06.10.10 - 9:43pm
cassandra-m - I needed that TODAY! Thank you...those words touched my heart and made me smile AND gain a little courage to dream, even with my fears. So thank you.  06.10.10 - 8:43pm
laetitia - Shoot for the moon, even if you miss you land among stars..... Feel the FEAR but do it anyway ... Do not let what you Can't do interfere with what you Can do... A winnner is a dreamer who never quits If you're going to be thinking you may as well think big, Believe in yourself IF YOU CAN DREAM IT, YOU CAN DO IT - Walt Disney  06.10.10 - 8:16pm
Dani - Jasmine, I needed this more than ever. I just got home from a not so happy house because I was just let go from my REAL job. All I can think of is how I am going to make my photography my REAL job. Finally. I'm almost relieved someone made the choice for me. Can't wait for your workshop in 2 weeks!  06.10.10 - 7:56pm
Jennifer H - You are truly amazing.  06.10.10 - 7:54pm
steff - i really appreciate the reminder that dreaming is ok and there is nothing wrong with indulgence.   06.10.10 - 7:25pm
Lydia - Jasmine, I think my fear of failure has kept me from doing so many things. It wasn't really lack or time or resources, but not pushing myself to even try. But that is all ending! Next week, for better or worse, I'll be shooting a session I've designed and styled myself! It's time to get out and act on my dreams!  06.10.10 - 7:01pm
Jennifer Sando - Thanks for this, Jasmine. I was only talking to 3 friends last night about the fear of following a dream... and so this post is timely. I sent the link to them. It helps to hear of success stories. x  06.10.10 - 6:11pm
Yuliette - "My friend reminded me to embrace failure and disappointment because somewhere in the mire, dreams take flight and hopes become a reality." With these words my heart was convinced that the time is now! Time to engage in life and take flight! My dreams are somewhere high amidst those clouds and I am on my first way ticket to go get them, whatever it takes! Thank you Jasmine for not only inspiring me, but also inspiring so many others! <3  06.10.10 - 6:00pm
Sara S. - Hi Jasmine*, I've never actually left you a comment before, after more than a year of following your blog... There have been many times I've wanted to--but today I couldn't help myself. Thanku so much for this post. I can't even begin to tell you how much I needed it. So thank you. I will keep dreaming. P.S. I love your blog:) A lot.  06.10.10 - 5:54pm
B - Yup, it's your BHAG. And don't you forget it, sister!  06.10.10 - 5:43pm
Beria Charles - Oh girl! I needed to hear that so much today! Dreaming about when to become a wedding photographer; when I'd know what to do when the perfect moment comes and I freeze and pray to be able to capture that right. Every photo shoot gives me butterflies... fear... In the middle of so much talented people I'm still not able to put my website up, go back blogging... Somedays I want to cry. Somedays I believe it's impossible to be a mom, a wife and a photographer at the same time. Somedays my broken english makes me wish to be quiet in my corner. BUT somedays people touch our lives with beautiful words and change our perspective forever. Thanks Jasmine! I wish we could meet here or there just to give you a big hug for this post! You are a blessing!  06.10.10 - 5:13pm
Carina - Thanks for sharing this Jasmine. =) You sure know how to put it into words and what a coincidence reading this right now...this morning I was assigned another opportunity to take on a new role; at first I said maybe with a huge hesitation and then the opportunity knocked 4 weeks later and I decided to jump on it leaving it up to Him to guide me every step of the way. Got sick and tired of all my "woulda, coulda, shouldas'" =) Wish me luck!  06.10.10 - 5:06pm
Melissa Papaj Photography - I couldn't agree more Jasmine. Failure is so scary, but in order to appreciate it all you have to have the rain to appreciate the sun.  06.10.10 - 5:06pm
Karen Taggart - Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! :)  06.10.10 - 5:02pm
Karen Taggart - Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! :)  06.10.10 - 5:00pm
Edan Ramos - As I sit here working another 8 hours in my cubicle all I can do is hope....I will heed your words and move forward....oh by the way do you and JD have a spare room I can live in?????JK!  06.10.10 - 4:53pm
gladys jem - whoa. why all of a sudden i have that lump in my throat. i love this jasmine. thank you for posting this!  06.10.10 - 4:43pm
Marryam - Thanks Jasmine - I needed this!  06.10.10 - 4:25pm
Candace Prokopets - Thank you for your honesty and authenticity. The world needs it.   06.10.10 - 4:19pm
Charlotte - Jasmine, thank you so much for your blog! You are an inspiration and you are one of the reasons I decided to follow my dream of becoming a photographer! Thank you!!! Cheers!   06.10.10 - 4:06pm
Emily the Photographer - Are you getting spammy emails from the Cayman Island? I keep getting those too!   06.10.10 - 3:47pm
meg.com - SO agree! and someone told me I should say my dreams out loud, that gives them a better chance of happening.... but it's scary to do that...  06.10.10 - 3:38pm
Evie Perez - Wow Jasmine!!! I so needed this today. I had a day where everything that could possibly go wrong did and I wanted to quit photography!!!! I decided to make the best of it and to become stronger :)  06.10.10 - 3:36pm
Nicole Landgrebe - Jasmine, we dream to acieve and then hopefully achieve our dreams!! your are truly a star!!  06.10.10 - 3:24pm
Lacy Dagerath - J! I was attending my nieces high school graduation and heard her principle say this: "It is possible to live without failing but you would have to live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all." I think that applies exactly... to what this post is about. :)  06.10.10 - 3:05pm
Catherine T. - Thats just want I needed. I've been on and off for a few months trying to decide if I should invest in the gear I need to start my own business and so I've kindof been looking for a sign. This was my sign. YAY... Thank you Jasmine* (so inspiring)  06.10.10 - 2:59pm
john pascale - 1 part photographer + 1 part dreamer + 1 part therapist = Jasmine Star  06.10.10 - 2:44pm
Fishgirl - Oh Jasmine, thanks for those warm words, I take them personally. my dream is to be just like you a photographer , i hope one day I can live it..you have a big heart . thanks.  06.10.10 - 2:26pm
amy.lashelle - my dream is to be a photographer big enough to go to the cayman islands. someday. i will.   06.10.10 - 2:13pm
Romonia Isaac - Jasmine, thank you for this post. I needed to hear something positive and your words were it.   06.10.10 - 2:13pm
dawn beirnes - ok, almost cried on this post.....I want so bad to become a photographer, and sometimes I think fear is what keeps me from getting out there and just doing it! Thank you so much for this!  06.10.10 - 2:10pm
Noelia Kline - Thanks for the inspirational words, I really needed that. God bless! :D  06.10.10 - 2:04pm
Megan (Best of Fates) - Such, SUCH, a true message. I admit, I'm often too frightened of failure and forget that it'll just teach me to try harder and be better.  06.10.10 - 2:03pm
Kelly | Purple Lemon Designs - Heartfelt and fabulous as always J*. Thanks for the honesty.  06.10.10 - 1:49pm
JenP - You SERIOUSLY need to consider writing a memoir or a book on photography or a fictional novel of your life's escapades with JD and Polo (changing the names to protect their identity, of course!). I'd buy it in a heartbeat.   06.10.10 - 1:48pm
Felicia Gwen Photography - Thank you...I need this today!  06.10.10 - 1:46pm
Katee Grace - you mean I'm not he only one fearing failure!?!? :) thanks jasmine. xoxo | yes, letting go of all that distracts and looking forward   06.10.10 - 1:43pm
jeff jochum - Embrace Failure! :) http://jeffjochumblog.com/?p=1  06.10.10 - 1:30pm
Ariane - This post couldn't have come at a better time. Just this morning in the shower, I had thoughts of failing to achieve my dreams..."what if, what if, what if". But David duChemin said it best in his book Vision Mongers: "Life offers no rewards to the tentative, to those who tiptoe cautiously through life only to arrive safely at death". As always, thanks so much for sharing Jasmine!  06.10.10 - 1:30pm
monica - dreamin imagining dream big if not you then who? and why not? work with someone else and help them achieve their dream you just might find yours  06.10.10 - 1:30pm
Sheila - Jasmine, I really love reading your blog, not only for your spectacular photography, but fora ll the inspiration you provide! This is something I really needed to read right now! :) Life has shown me that those who leap for their dreams always acheive them.   06.10.10 - 1:29pm
Cindy A. - Wow, beautifully brief words gave me my needed boost for today.  06.10.10 - 1:27pm
Mel - I heart you Jasmine!!! thanks for this post.   06.10.10 - 1:27pm
claire - love this, timing is impeccable!  06.10.10 - 1:24pm
Patty Luna - This Post reminded me of this preaching pastor Joel Osteen gave about " It's not too late to get started". God doesn't want us to stop dreaming, we have to put those dreams to ACTION. www.joelosteen.com - video streaming.. CHECK IT OUT  06.10.10 - 1:24pm
Antisha - Thanks for the inspiration...I needed that today :)  06.10.10 - 1:24pm
Andrea - I'm curious! What did your best friend accomplish?! And remember...its never a "failure" when we learn from our experiences!  06.10.10 - 1:23pm
Jennifer Tori - I really wish I could write like you! So inspirational!!!  06.10.10 - 1:22pm
Janna Overend - Dear, Jasmine, Failure is not to fail, failure is not to try ;-)  06.10.10 - 1:22pm
Mindee Green - You know the bible says a man with no vision dies. The whole fun of dreaming is our dreams are ours! And they keep us alive with hope for the tomrrow and they can become our Destiny! Sucess or failure in the world eyes dosent matter. the whole idea is to step out and run with the gifts and talents and abilitys God had given each of us :O) Other people and their opinions hold no power in defining our destiny!   06.10.10 - 1:21pm
Ria Mishaal - I'm walking in the rain with just these thoughts in my head...longing to dream, terrified of failure...thank you Jasmine for letting me know I'm not alone, and for helping me to let my guard down to the dreams...  06.10.10 - 1:20pm
Ria Mishaal - I'm walking in the rain with just these thoughts in my head...longing to dream, terrified of failure...thank you Jasmine for letting me know I'm not alone, and for helping me to let my guard down to the dreams...